Asklemmy

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I used to but then at work everyone always uses the thumbs up on slack. So I got used to it. Nowadays it depends on the context of the convo

I basically use it as a way to acknowledge that I saw a message but have nothing further to ask or add.

I found it rude but not anymore and I have to really think about it. On facebook messenger, the default emoji is 👍 and during my stay on that platform (~2011-2017) it was regarded as a rude, low effort dismissal, at least inside my circles.

Nowadays, i double take and find that people don't indent to be rude to me. After all, i'm not on facebook anymore and these people weren't in my circle.

It depends on the context and the person for me.

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I'm with you but it's a generational thing. Are you a millennial?

Nope, not at all.

You see it as dismissive. Low effort reply, like they couldn't be bothered. It's not inviting continued conversation so you see it as someone telling you to stop talking to them.

If I were to guess. In your eyes. They might as well have replied with "cool story bro".

Which is now forever a sarcastic term and no one regardless of what you say, will believe that you actually found their story cool.

In private messages outside of work, yes, it comes across passive aggressive and is a hard stop to a conversation. In work context though, it's pretty common on teams as an acknowledgement, though I still think it's nicer to use like a heart react then actually reply.

I'll reply with the all mighty answer:

It depends.

Depends on the people you are talking to I'd say.

Depends on context for me.

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Personally i do. Same as the 😉 wink smiley... comes across as a bit of a cunt in my opinion.

Could be because there were shitty people that would use it in condescending ways at me.

No.

Just like a curt "yes" or even "yes sir" can be seen as somewhat rude in some contexts, so to can its emoji equivalent.

It really depends on the age of the sender.

30s and younger: Fairly dismissive response. Not outright insulting but pretty rude.

40s and older: genuinely meant as an earnest acknowledgement of your message.

nope but my lingo interpretation is way dated and by the time I uptake something its out of fashion.

I had this discussion with my wife a few weeks ago. She did that to a work colleague who took offense to it. I explained that that's because her colleague is about 8 years younger than us.

Basically, if the recipient is 35 and under, it's offensive. If they're 40 and older, it's not. Anywhere in between, look for context.

It has too much function to take it as a dismissive reply... unless it's obvious.

For work I use it all the time to confirm I got an email. I can see how it may ruffle feathers, but my other colleagues don't even confirm they got the message. Using the thumbs up also helps me organize what I need to do because half it is just in emails I gave a thumbs up to.

If I just replied 👍 to this post, I can see how that would be bullshit but that's not how Im using it.

Its kinda like saying "sir" or "ma'am." Some people are too good for it imo and some people may have good reasons to feel uneasy about it, but to me it is respectful to use it as long as you aren't clearly a shit head.

For message received, I use the press and hold emoji reactions, "tapbacks" I think they're called.

For some reason I associate an actual "👍🏼" text as being less nice? Because now you took the time to open your keyboard and find the thumbs up. Like equivalent to texting "K." Lol