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cross-posted from: https://lemmit.online/post/5401622

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The original was posted on /r/mildlyinteresting by /u/miyog on 2025-03-14 16:02:13+00:00.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

Any idea what book the notes were from?

[–] [email protected] 25 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, at no point in my dating life did I ever continue seeking relations past week three. If we’re not fucking by week three, we’re just not fucking.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 29 minutes ago

Yall weird as hell. Ever heard of taking it slow?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

It doesn't say no fucking, just don't spend the whole night.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 46 minutes ago

For me, that is even weirder to be honest.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Some notes:

#1 You present your evidence that him changing his position would be a good thing (for whatever good means here). However, you can't force someone to adopt your position. You can present your argument. Further, you can enumerate your boundaries. If the position you're arguing that he isn't adopting crosses one of your (reasonable) boundaries, you can enumerate what kind of impact it will have on you, and how you would react.

#4 sounds like straight up manipulation. If my partner strokes my ego just to get their way instead of their appreciation/admiration being genuine, that would be a dealbreaker. You don't have to like all the things I like. I'm allowed to have preferences, that may not match yours, and I respect your preferences that may not be mine. However, don't be dishonest with me and my feelings just to extract some kind of concession from me.

#5 You are fully within your rights to establish where your boundaries are, but you need to clearly communicate those to the other person. If you only give away the "cookie" after a relationship has reached a certain point, thats your choice, but fairly early on in the relationship you need to communicate that and let them make their choice. If they leave you because their expectation of receiving the "cookie" is different, thats a good thing. It means you weren't compatible with each other's needs/desires. You are both better off.

#6 We're all a little crazy or broken. In fact, thats usually what makes us unique. When someone accepts you for who and what you are, that is a truly loving experience. However, they can only know who you are when you share it with them. When you do is up to you both how you develop the relationship. The "maintain the mystery" is a bit concerning though. That sounds like game playing.

#7 This is just a repeat of #5

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 hours ago

I want to punch her “cookie” in the face for being called “cookie” lmao

[–] [email protected] 13 points 13 hours ago (3 children)

What the fuck does triangle his mind mean?

[–] [email protected] 46 points 13 hours ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 hours ago

Please stop trying to triangle slazer2au's mind about what it says

[–] [email protected] 7 points 13 hours ago

Ah, I assumed it meant time given the context.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 12 hours ago

Δ is the greek uppercase letter Delta, which is used to denote change or difference in math. In the changemyview subreddit the OP can reply with Δ if any comment under their post has convinced them of a different viewpoint.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 13 hours ago

Change. Delta means change in math/science.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 13 hours ago (3 children)

well it's your cookie ans you can give it to anyone you want to. You can wait 90 days for the perfect cup of milk to dip you cookie in and then the milk is spoiled. Do anything you want without expecting anything from others, expectations will make you sad.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 18 minutes ago

If the milk spoiled in 90 days then it was bad milk from the start.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 hours ago

Just bake or buy more cookies and milk.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 hours ago

God forbid you do what you want!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 14 hours ago

Live and learn.