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What have friends of yours or members of your family chosen for each one? Someone I know is having an event and it has me wondering.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I have literally never seen that "tradition" followed except on television or movies. No wedding ceremony I've ever attended had any of that going on.

Maybe I hang out with the wrong crowd.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

I did at my wedding, but it wasn’t like it was a big thing. It was something personal that I did for myself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Only reason why I know this tradition exists is because of an episode of Friends, as I had nothing else to binge while on an offshore rotation: Each trip involved being on a ship for five weeks straight with shoddy internet connection.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I don’t think I’ve ever seen one without that tradition.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Looks like I hang out with the wrong (right?) people then.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Semi related, but I hate how every wedding seems to do the "Love is patient, love is kind" reading. Have some originality....

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Its not for me, but at least its not "Love is patient" 🤮

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Is blue supposed to be something that color, or something sad... I'm not familiar with the tradition

The color seems an odly specific and arbitrary thing to bring, but sad seems... Well kinda sad 😅

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Blue is supposed to be the colour, yes. The verbiage is that "blue is an ancient symbol—dating back to Ancient Rome—representing love, purity, and fidelity". This is, however, absolute poppycock. Blue was a symbol of fidelity, this is true, but to the emperor, not in love. And indeed there is no single colour that symbolizes all three things in Roman times.

White symbolized purity and innocence. Yellow represented marriage and fidelity. Red represented violence (Mars), yes, but also passion and love. Green represented beauty, fertility, and love. Purple represented passion, but chiefly reserved for the royal classes.

Blue was not related to any kind of love symbolism whatsoever. The Victorians just made stuff up. Again. Like the so-called "medieval" torture devices (like iron maidens, etc.)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Facinating, thank you so much for the additional historical context!!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That's the most polite way I've ever seen of edging away from my obsessive tendencies. 😀

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

I happen to enjoy hearing peoples obsessive excitement for things lol

Always happy to hearn about stuff from a knowledgeable person passionate about the subject!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

The color, yes.