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A genie appears before you and says you must choose to be very physically attractive, but slightly below average intelligence, or very intelligent, but slightly below average attractiveness? Which would you choose, and why?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I’m currently neither. Since I’m already used to not being intelligent, I’d go with being beautiful. Then I could always work to increase my intelligence if I wanted.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Attractive, it's wild how people are more likely to help you in either small or greater acts or be willing to overlook some of your flaws.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

My intelligence makes me depressed, so beautiful.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

As someone with below average intelligence I can tell you it really doesn't. Trust me, having a low intelligence doesn't make your life easier it just makes it harder and puts you at a massive disadvantage. It's the most soul crushing experience there is. You can become beautiful but intelligence is forever, be thankful for what you've got.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

I think I'd rather be smart. I'm honestly often so impressed with beautiful people, because that shit takes work.

I can roll out of bed, pull my three week old sauce stained shirt over my gut, and go do smart shit with a terrible haircut and no one gives a fuck.

Beautiful people will have chosen matching outfits worth thousands, spent an hour on hair and makeup, all after a morning gym session, and they'll keep that hair perfect all day, getting their spa session in and finding time to do their nails.

How do they even have time to cook a healthy well balanced meal?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Honestly, according to IQ tests, I'm already in the 95th+ percentile for intelligence. I'm also on the autism spectrum, and just got diagnosed with severe ADHD late last year. I've accomplished fuck-all by being smart, and it's mostly made me depressed. I'd pick being slightly dumb, but hot.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago (7 children)

Why so many people think being smart means getting phd's and good job/money?

Good job, phd's require discipline not smartness and often being attractive gets you better confidence/charisma, thats far far more important for getting good money or recognition than smartness

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

How about slightly below both but with some solid executive functioning and 0 mood disorders? I'll take that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

Beautiful.

I've tried the other way already. Not so good.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

I chose Chameleon from the Xanth universe.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago

I am lucky enough to already be both, so I don't have to choose, thank you very much.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Clever but slightly below average attractiveness? Yes, I'll take that. It would be a double upgrade for me.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Smart, being beautiful would just get attention from boring people

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

But if you're not smart then those would be your people.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The only people you fool are other stupid people though.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

So... the genie offers to make me look better by increasing my looks to only slightly below average? Noice!

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (5 children)

I am the most intelligent person I know. So naturally I would choose intelligence, because christ do I need perspective if that's what I actually believe

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm already smart and beautiful.

Isn't there a genie out there that cures anxiety?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Not really a genie, more of a willo the wisp, but I get it from a bloke called Spider. It's very more-ish.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Ignorance is bliss, so I'll take beauty. I just want to be happy.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Beautiful. I've tried smart, it sucks.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

Yeah, told the genie I want to be smart. Motherfucker turned me into a car.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

If we're talking 90+ percentile then no question I'd go with smarts and use it to have a big impact on some field of science. Otherwise I'd probably still pick smarts but it's more of a tossup.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It's lonely being intelligent. Maybe I'm just in the wrong social circles.

I like to read books at my construction job when we're not busy. Yet none of my coworkers have read a book since early middle school, and they only skimmed it to half-ass a book report. I can't talk to them about anything except work.

I've never been beautiful my whole life. I'd give myself a 4 out of 10, a little less than average. I never really cared about my looks, I haven't worn makeup in ages.

I'd be interested in giving beauty a trial run, see if it suits me better than intelligence.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago

Being smart has only gotten me anxiety. I'll go with attractiveness.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (5 children)

I think being intelligent gets you better jobs and more money sooo 🀷

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago

Ignorance is bliss.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

Would I be pretty and daft enough to not overthink and complicate everything and to finally be happy?

Ok then. Let me be a himbo. The ladies may take advantage.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I mean slightly below average is not bad attractiveness wise. Less hassel to some degree, especially if your a woman. below average intelligence though can really hamstring you. Intelligence all the way. Doesn't say gorgeous though or genius. sounds to me like I would basically be asking for the genie to do nothing based on my academic achievements and dating lack of achievements.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (5 children)

... I visit my therapist weekly to cope with my ongoing god complex?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Intelligence, easier to figure out how to improve my attractiveness and deal with complex problems in general than trying to get smarter.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago

Appreciate the offer but no thanks.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Smart... Looks good away but intelligence is forever.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

I pick the grilled cheese sandwich.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm studying engineering, so i'll take smarts, we all know that anyone in this field ends up bald by some mystical force anyways

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

The latter. I guess that's kinda what I have already and I have no complaints. I'm aro/ace anyway so I don't really need the stunning looks for dating purposes. My relatively decent ability to learn new things never ceases to entertain me

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Why am I forced to downgrade if it's a genie wish?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago (3 children)

What is the definition of 'beautiful', here? Do I get to decide, or is it up to the genie's interpretation?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago

Beauty I guess, intelligence doesn't make a damn unless you're brave, lucky, or born well

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

Smart. Pretty, dumb people get taken advantage of. Besides, I'm already unattractive, might as well give me something after making me go through high school πŸ˜’

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Probably smart, because I'm already pretty smart and the prospect of giving up what I already have seems scary.

Plus, I've lived most of my life thinking I was repulsively ugly; part of overcoming that anxiety involved understanding that "you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, but some people just don't like peaches". If there's anything I've learned from that, it's understanding that attractiveness is even harder to "objectively" quantify than intelligence

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Long Covid and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis have noticeably lowered my IQ. It's a terrible feeling to be more stupid and know that I normally could do better.

So give me intelligence every day. Physical attractiveness can only go so far.

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