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I keep hearing about how you shouldn't laugh over your own jokes but when I watch a video or listen to a podcast, I find it much more authentic and likable when they laugh over their own jokes in a conversation. You know, vibes.

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[–] [email protected] 101 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

People who say you shouldn't laugh at your own jokes are either sad, sad people or have never told a funny joke or story ever.

There's jokes and stories I've been saying for 20 years that still make me laugh as I'm saying it.

Be a man, laugh at your own jokes.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 weeks ago

Followed your advice, now my husband complains I'm not the woman he married anymore.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Laughing sounds like one of them "emotions" that aren't sposed to exist for real manly men, so says the teevee

/- Cleetus

[–] [email protected] 38 points 3 weeks ago

Oh, laugh if you feel like laughing!

Life is too short to worry about what should be done in which vibe.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

As long as they're not obnoxiously loud and saying something that's actually funny, I think it's completely normal. People usually say funny things that they find funny so it would be natural for them to laugh a little.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

If someone is about to tell me a joke and start laughing mid first sentence it's a sign that is either going to be very good or so bad it will become good.

Let them laugh!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

This right here is the best answer in my opinion. Regardless of the story, the teller is just so into it that they can’t stop laughing. You’re probably going to end up laughing with them.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

It depends on the joke: most are funny regardless, but for some jokes a straight/deadpan delivery is part of the humor.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 weeks ago

You're telling the joke because you find it funny, it's so fucking weird that people seem to not understand that.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago

Truly weird how laughing over your own joke has become known as a symptom for sociopathy.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago

I think this is more of a truism within standup comedy that’s leaked out into being general advice. It can be offputting for a standup comedian to laugh at all their own jokes but even then there’s exceptions to the rule.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago

I am indifferent to it because i think it is just logical that people laugh about their own jokes. They have a thought that makes them laugh so they want to share it.

Why should I share a joke that doesn't make me laught?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I like it a lot when professional actors lose it once in awhile, it really adds a lot. I do end up disliking it when they do it too often, like it's part of their shtick. There was a dude on SNL for awhile who always cracked up and i hated him. It's gotta feel authentic to me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

I probably said the joke because I thought it was funny and so it's really difficult not to laugh and I don't care what anyone thinks because I'm an idiot

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

It depends on why they're laughing for me. Lots of terribly unfunny people essentially provide their own real time laugh track to signal "This is the funny part, laugh please," which gets old real quick. They also tend to laugh incredibly hard at their own jokes, far more than is merited by the actual joke. Unfunny people trying to force a joke like that get old fast.

On the other hand, I don't take issue with having a bit of a laugh with everyone else when you land a good one. On rare occasion, there are even jokes that wind up funnier because they're just so hilarious that the person telling them can hardly get them out without busting up themselves.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

I feel like "don't laugh at your own jokes" is a piece of ancient wisdom from the entertainment industry.

Like, if you're a performer and you're laughing so hard that you can't get the punchline out, then it prevents people from actually hearing the joke.

When you consider that performers in traditional media have a limited time slot to work in, then taking a break to laugh could be considered a waste or unprofessional.

I don't think that long-format content has the same problem. If you're making an online video or a podcast then you're not limited by time. Authenticity is more important than fitting into a five minute set

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Laughing is bourgeois. I believe in the communal sensible chuckle.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

If it takes them several attempts to tell me something and they're laughing all the way through it, I assume it's going to be bad or underwhelming.

I've personally heard some of the best ones were when someone keeps themselves steadied enough to tell what a funny story is or what a joke is but then break into laughter towards the end. Just enough to finish the bit.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

OK with laughing over your own joke, but if you burst out and are not even able to finish uttering it, then I think this is a bit childish.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

I think I depends on the laugh for me. Like I don't mind a haha this is a joke kind of laugh. But a haha omg I am the funniest person alive type of laugh would be met with some ridicule.

Hard to I explain the difference in text, but hopefully you get the gist!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

If you don't laugh at your own joke, then it's probably not funny.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I cannot not laugh over my own jokes

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

I used to have a college professor who would always laugh at his own jokes. Always. His class only laughed maybe half the time. I didn't mind much because he was a cool guy in general.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

My daughter is the only one laughing at her "jokes."

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Humor is difficult.

It's tough when it's actually a bad joke or they are telling it badly, but they find it funny.

If it's a genuinely funny situation / retelling, both of you laughing about the same thing and also about how the person in question is struggling to breathe because they have to laugh so much, that's funny.

But it really really really depends.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

My coworker has that kind of sense of humor where he always says the obvious joke you're hoping nobody will make. Then he laughs, and for some reason, everyone else does.

Also, whenever he helps someone and they thank him, he says, "That will be 10 dollars," and then laughs about his joke.

The reason i hate it is this: He's a lazy, quiet-quitting asshole who everyone likes. I, on the other hand, work my butt off. I appreciate a witty, clever sense of humor. However, I'm socially awkward, so nobody likes me!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Did we change what quiet quitting means again? Doing his job and nothing more is a bad thing now?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Doing the least amount possible to keep a job puts pressure on coworkers to take up the slack. I work in an ER, not an office. When someone is in the bathroom texting, more than they are out on the floor helping its shitty, yes.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Being a liability isn't what I would consider most people's definition of quiet quitting, especially in that sort of environment.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

"You're really cracking yourself up aren't you?"

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Not laughing at your own joke is only a requirement for dry humour. I guess some people only like dry humour so they generalise this but most people like all kinds of jokes

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Meh, matrix brainwashing. Be yourself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

If even I don't laugh at my own jokes, why would anyone else laugh at them? The worse the joke, the more I laugh

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

I laugh at my own jokes because I'm hilarious

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Sometimes I laugh on purpose to indicate that I'm joking.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I hate when people laugh at my jokes, let alone someone laughs at their own. Laughter is such a horrible noise.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Laughter is also highly contagious, so you better watch out. There have been reports of entire office floors and classrooms succumbing to uncontrollable fits of giggles, causing productivity rates to plummet. In some cases, the laughter epidemic has spread across neighborhoods, turning typically stoic morning commutes into a cacophony of chuckles and snorts. Health authorities are advising to limit exposure to particularly humorous individuals and to steer clear of gatherings where a particularly irrisponsible individual stands on stage aiming to infect everyone in the audience with a severe case of laughter.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Maybe for some but I’ve never laughed due to others laughing. I can’t recall the last time I laughed recently. I tend to avoid it because it’s such an uncomfortable feeling. Like you’ve got hiccups and coughing at the same time. It’s easy to avoid though because it’s not my reaction to things others laugh at.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

The first time I thought you were joking, now I am not sure anymore if you could be a really sad person instead.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Sounds truly exceptional. Other people don’t consider it uncomfortable at all.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Have you considered making an AMA? There are so many questions already brewing.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

Whoever says to not laugh about their own jokes has never seen el Risitas. RIP.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

Most times I can tell if the laughter is fake or not, and I happened to be in situations when I can't contain myself to tell the story straigh without laughing my ass off. It depends.

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