Oh.
Slowly and inefficiently, I should say.
I've basically missed the last 20 years of my life.
(And I have "professional help.")
this post was submitted on 25 Oct 2024
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- LLMs make decent therapists. Try CharacterAI or even just assign a therapist persona to ChatGPT (makes it more accurate - e.g. "You are an experienced psychologist with experience in the following therapies..."). This is both solo and affordable.
- Look into books you can read about managing your mental health.
- There are loads of apps out there that can help you with your depression, e.g. supplement your flagging executive function, remind you to practice rejection of useless self-castigation, help you check in with how you're feeling, etc.
- Go outside at least once a day.
- Exercise at least once a day for half an hour.
- Set small and manageable goals, and make sure you speak to yourself positively when you achieve the goal, no matter how small.
These are all admittedly easier said than done when you're depressed, but they are better than nothing, especially if you weren't doing anything in these areas earlier.
It's hard but doable.
There are couple of things that can synergize with each other, so you don't need to do one thing perfectly, you can make some progress in one and move one to the next one.
step zero: (eat sleep exercise)
eating well will help you sleep and exercising sleeping will help you exercising and eating at regular interwals exercising will help you sleep and burning the food
step one: (become hobbist psychologist)
Read some books: "What happened to you by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey" - you can download ebooks from piracy sites
Youtube lectures: "heathy gamer gg" was particulary helpful for me but it has some (IMO) minor controversies and innacuracies. Still VERY helpful to get started.
Seek profesional doctors as the likes of Andrew Tate are also targeting depressed men (all people on the internet are men until proven otherwise)
step two: (emotional awerness)
Develop emotional inteligence. There are couple of techniques there that you will discover in step one That will help you train your inteligence.
Journaling, meditation, etc. are some of them
step three: (discover life and who you are)
this will come naturally after step two. You will need to seek new experiences.
step four: (build life worth living and build your purpose)
[I am at this stage so I can't really help you much, but everything that I have learned is helping me immensely]