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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A couple got caught behind the high school. Girl giving the blowie was made to apologize to the school over the PA system and then "encouraged" to go to a different school where she would "fit in better". Boy got no punishment.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah, my high school had a similar issue. There was an "alternative" school that was basically worse in every capacity and every deviant student or pregnant student was "encouraged" to transfer. The wild thing was you would still walk the stage with everyone from the initial high school so graduation day was like 20% people you didn't even know or thought they moved away.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Back when I was in high school (in public school), chess caught on in a big way. Chess. It was the weirdest thing. It was a public school in a small farming town, and pre-Nerd Renaissance, so picture a stereotypical 80s or 90s school where jocks were top of the food chain--and then picture those same jocks in their letter jackets rushing to the library on their free periods to take turns playing chess. They set up tournaments and kept track of win/loss ratios and talked about chess strategies in the hallways.

So obviously something had to be done...I guess? The school started making rules and posting them around the school: one game per student per day. One game at a time in the lounge. No chess in classrooms or in the library! The chess board must be returned to the lounge supervisor between games, then signed out by the next person wanting to play--not just passed willy-nilly from one student to another! No outside chess boards allowed!

That pretty much strangled the chess fad. The jocks went back to stuffing nerds in lockers and sneaking out to smoke behind the school, and the chess boards returned to the shelf by the lounge supervisor, where they collected dust.

Problem...solved? The whole thing was pretty surreal.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wh.... Why wouldn't they encourage this?

I mean, I know, but how dumb can they be?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Cant have the jocks get weak and start viewing the other students as people and cohorts.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Can't start losing football games

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My high school had a rule about the "difficulty" of books you could read. You weren't supposed to read too high "above your grade". I assumed this rule was something with the school library and their Accelerated Reader program.

Nope! Tried to give me ISS because I was reading "Screwjack", which I brought from home. It wasn't even in class! I was a fucking junior. A high school junior should be able to handle Hunter S. Thompson.

According to them it was "college level" and therefore I shouldn't be reading it. My father raised absolute hell in that office. Don't think they tried enforcing that rule again.

They also tried bitching about girls tops until a group of very pissed off redneck fathers had questions about how they were touching the students to measure the width.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I get the fact that reading too high above your grade means you may be way over your head in vocabulary and grammar, but it's not entirely applicable to everyone. I read Pride and Prejudice and one friend said I sounded posh from the language I accidentally started using. So if a high schooler or junior high schooler can handle it, why not?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

The AR Reading program that was popular in the early 2000s was an absolute disaster. It basically killed my love of reading for almost 10 years. They wouldn't let me read books "above my level" based on some BS test that used timed reading. I wasn't dumb, I just sub-vocalized when I read like a lot of people, so I read slowly. Read slow, don't finish the test, grade poor, so "no books for you!" said the school.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I wish I could remember the specifics but my high school had an extremely ridiculous dress code policy at one point. Mostly targeting girls, of course, but also had weird shit like β€œno large/long coats.”

What I do remember perfectly though, is that a friend of mine and I, angrily pouring over the details of the stupid dress code, realized that capes were perfectly fine according to the code as written. So we both got huge capes and that was like a whole year of high school.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Zero tolerance" policy on fighting. Any "active" participation resulted in automatic suspension. That part sounds fine, but active participation included things like holding up your hands in self defense or trying to push the person sitting on your chest while punching you in the face off of you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I really don't understand why schools have this rule (at least in many places in the US). Are they trying to teach you to not practice self defense and just let it happen? Doesn't sound like a great thing to teach.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

It’s easy for the administrators. No investigation, no attempt to understand what happened.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My school only allowed us to use 5MB of internet per day, even though their connection was essentially an unlimited T1 line (1.544Mbps). This was around 20 years ago when a lot of people in Australia still had dial-up.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

No D&D in the halls during recess like seriously? Gotta love the "everything I don't like is witchcraft" period of the 90s

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

No listening to music during breaks. If you were caught with headphones on you without even using them, you could face punishment.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Our idiot principal for my first two years tried to come up with his own rule that shirts had to be tucked in. The written rule added the caveat "if it was designed to be tucked in". I purposely bought shirts that said they were not intended to be tucked in just so I could be a problem, and then made sure other people know which ones to buy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My middle school required all shirts to be tucked in and they meant ALL SHIRTS. They went around making kids tuck in sweatshirts. It was dumb. And also racist because it was the 90s and the rule was made in response to baggy clothing being popular especially amongst black kids, so they considered large untucked shirts to be gang related.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's not enforced by my schools, but when I was little, speaking local languages at school was forbidden. It's getting better now, but at that time, only the official language was allowed.

Another rule was boys weren't allowed to wear longer hairs. If the hairline was below the ears, they would be asked to cut it shorter. From time to time, boys from my class were forced to cut their hair during classes with the company of a teacher.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

banning local languages was also done by my local government around 50ish years ago. in every school. take a wild guess at where I'm from?

(no, I'm not dutch despite being on feddit.nl)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Canada, I'm guessing? We did all sorts of horrible things like that even til the 1990s to the First Nations peoples.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Taiwan actually. They banned anything other than Mandarin.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I went to a private religious school and they made a rule that there couldn’t be any PDA (public displays of affection) between opposite sexes. And they ruled that pretty well with an iron fist.

So we took that in the opposite direction, and I don’t think the administration ever saw so much guy on guy slapping of butts, β€œHey bigais”, or pecks on the cheek in their lives.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

bruh some of my friends weren't even allowed to talk to the opposite gender in their schools.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is honestly one of the weirdest things I've heard in awhile. Seriously, are people not allowed to have opposite sex friends? Jesus.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

eventually my friend's class had this rule after a parent complained about their daughter talking to a boy at 11pm. i mean india is a pretty conservative country if you exclude big cities.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

School: not allowed to have opposite sex friends

Society: not allowed to have same sex relationships

Parents of millenials/gen z: why is everyone antisocial, not talking to girls, and not having kids?

Lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

We weren't allowed to wear shirts with text on them. Didn't matter what they said; there could be no words of any kind on your clothes. It was some old ass rule that was still in the charter for the school or something from like 50 years ago, and one of those things most people just wouldn't enforce. My school enforced it, though. Fuckin VP would be out front every day turning every kid he saw with text on their clothes back home to change.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Not a rule, but some stupid thing that was allowed to slip by for way too long.

My highschool's firewall would often block the most innocuous websites, but that somehow did not include Pornhub. While they did eventually add it in, by that point it had been a known thing for years with even multiple cases of students going on it during classes.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My school had the same thing. In fifth grade I had to give a presentation about computer viruses, but the firewall even blocked the standard Wikipedia article for it. Porn however? No problem!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

At my high school, we basically had no enforcement of the dress code except for one incident. For context, everyone wore hats, crop tops, shorts, and stuff kinda like Euphoria. Certain teachers and administrators would ask you to take off your hat, but I haven't heard anyone get dress coded until senior year.

My school had a small trend where the senior guys would wear crop tops which lasted a few days until we heard that they banned guys wearing crop tops to school and dress coded one of the guys wearing them. Keep in mind, the girls could and did wear crop tops and no one dress coded them. Kinda ironic considering that the majority of dress code enforcement is towards girls, but the only time someone got dress coded (to my knowledge) in my four years of high school, it was a guy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Forced to read and write about bible in public school, violating separation of church and state.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, you can be forced to learn about the bible, even its contents, as part of a literature or history class in school.

But I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that probably wasn’t the purpose of what you were put through.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'm not American, but in my country we straight up just had Religious Education classes as part of school. It sort of technically covered most of the major religions but really it was like 99% just about the bible and Christianity.

Also, it didn't work lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My school strictly prohibits vehicle use, and considers all violations a strong offense that is on a three-strikes out rule.

Yes, it includes e-scooters and swan boats.

Yes, it includes whether you are in uniform or not.

Yes, it includes whether you are in school or not.

Yes, even if you are licensed.

Yes, it is enforceable anywhere.

The rule is obnoxiously blanket.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The dumbest rule that fortunately was only "tried" to be enforced was no gun racks in the student vehicles in the parking lot. This is was a rural area where for almost a hundred years people would have guns in the gun-racks in their trucks mostly. But with fire arm thefts etc it was pretty rare to actually have a gun loaded or unloaded in the gun-rack. Generally you'd just have the gun in the rack if you were hunting, or patrolling your ranch or whatever.

Then Columbine happened and suddenly gun-racks and leather trench coats, aka dusters, another extremely common piece of clothing in a rural ranching town were priority number one by reactionary's. Hundreds of otherwise lawful students were suspended, ticketed, arrested etc and finally after several months I assume someone had a "are we the baddies?" moment, and coupled with hundreds of lawsuits, the school system got a new superintendent and suddenly gun racks and dusters were back to being treated as the mundane items they are.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

But with fire arm thefts etc it was pretty rare to actually have a gun loaded or unloaded in the gun-rack.

So what you're saying is, people did - rarely - leave guns unattended in a car? Students no less?And that is legal? Murica gets more absurd every time I read about it.

Under no circumstances in the wrold would I leave my unsecured guns in a car.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean generally I agree with you, but much like you have your phone with you constantly, you will sometimes leave it somewhere you normally wouldn't accidentally. So if you've had the gun in your truck all day, you may just leave it in the rack once in a while. As for "students" yea, it would be pretty weird to grow up in that area and not be very familiar with firearms. It would be like being amazed and surprised that most students had been driving since they were 14, or were riding horses at 8. It's pretty mundane.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

No I won't leave my gun "accidentally" anywhere. Handling a gun means "accidentally" is not part of your vocabulary.

I'm a gun owner myself, so I'm not the pearl clutching type but this is genuinely unthinkable to me. Absurd and a little scary, to be honest.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago

You sound like the bad guy in the original story. Just totally out of touch such that it is "unthinkable" that a bunch of students wouldn't ascribe greater reverence to objects that at the end of the day are just mundane tools.