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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? (startrek.website)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.
ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).
Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.
Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Neckbeards fighting about Linux. No girls in sight.

Like Lemmy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

In theory? Yes. In reality? No.

Besides all the practical reasons already mentioned, it's simply a question of marketing to get people into it. Which costs money noone wants to pay because it kills the principle of breaking free of corpo-hold. Without marketing you'll end up with the nerds that are already here (majority). And of those, the majority are probably also male.

And on top of that, you might find other people living in NYC but what about smaller cities or even foreign ones? With reddits userbase you probably could, but you don't reach them because they already prefer mainstream-stuff 😐

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

And of those, the majority are probably also male.

Ok we start with a federated Grindr, then once that takes off we use the network effects to pull in other orientations..

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Federated or not, dating sites don't work well

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I'm getting married next week. Met her on Tinder. Sometimes they absolutely do work

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I don't think there's any chick's here dude. It's just us.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Can we please leave this awful mindset behind on reddit