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[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

A literal flag colored red, if you or the flag is moving towards the other so fast as to blueshift it to green.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If a person with protanopia/deuteranopia looks at a red flag, one sees green-ish flag.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Hi, protan here, you are not a correct. I am red-blind and it's more like reds are extremely muted, with weaker reds looking kinda grey.

Yellows turn into greens, though, for perhaps predictable reasons.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Red flag: My friend once saw what looked like people setting a RadioShack ablaze and stealing all the expensive electronics and making off with them all.

Green flag context: It was actually a faulty electronic that caused the fire, and the "thieves" were Good Samaritans saving everything from getting burned.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Everything!

Say "I love you babe!"

  • Long term relationship - green
  • First date - red

Say "I'll beat you!"

  • Racing a kid - green
  • When stoping in the middle of the woods with your date - red

Let a fart rip

  • With a friend when the room is silent - green
  • On your date when she rims you - red

I can go on

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Lying and pretending to know something who's actually a complete stranger to them

When the stranger is a drunk woman in distress clearly trying to get away from a predator.

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago

Partners who want to do everything for you.

They're very giving, and will do you so many favors, and cater to your whims. Favorite ice cream? Let me go buy it for you! Need something from the store? I'll go get it! Need a ride? Got you covered!

Once they have you "locked down" (married, pregnant, in a long-term lease, dependant on them for transport, etc.) they can do a 180 and suddenly "you owe them". No more favors. Only guilt. They'll isolate you and make every negative emotion they feel be "your fault."

They want you to become dependant on them so they can use and manipulate you.

Be so very careful with overly kind/giving people. Never let yourself be 100% dependant on someone else. Ever. No matter how nice they are to you.