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[serious] What survival reflexes of your own experience are hard for you to get rid of? (lemmy.ml)

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Either from abusive parents, toxic relationships, short or long term bullying or any other kind of traumatic past that gave you some survival reflexes that are not longer relevant but are hard for you to get rid of.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

My parents', stop crying or I will give you something to cry about, keeps me from being able to handle my 5yo when he's getting emotional or crying about something I see as trivial or is a resolved conflict.

I feel embarrassed when someone, even my wife, sees me cry. I usually break down alone and as quietly as possible to avoid being caught. I'm better at letting that shit go, now, and allow myself to break down in front of my wife, but no one else.