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What was the biggest pill you've had to swallow about your own self or habits? (lemmy.ml)

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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I grew being told I was smart. And to be fair, I am. I always grasped things quick and got through school without much effort.

But what it really ended up being was undiagnosed ADHD.

But when I had to really focus and stick with something for an extended period of time I always struggled. Especially when I lost the structure of being forced to go to school every day.

Im 35 this year and I never expected to be able to hold down a relationship, I had flings but nothing stuck. It wasn't until other things in life going that I rekindled a missed connection from years past. It was only 2 years ago and now she and her daughter live with me.

As for hobbies, I really wish there was a better way to do it than owning all my own stuff. Communal woodshops and auto shops that were more easily accessible. Then hacker spaces for the more niche things. But I know that's a resource that's more accessible around cities.