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What was the biggest pill you've had to swallow about your own self or habits? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 day ago (3 children)

That I didn't know who I was. My lack of self awareness hampered my growth trajectory, my maturity, and relationships. My first failed marriage was a pinnacle of this issue. Though, fast forward 5 years, I'm a vastly different person, know who I am and what I want and where I want to end up. I feel guilty for my ex wife and the impact I had on them. I hope they're happier where ever they may be.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

That sounds super healthy actually. Good outlook to have. We all make mistakes, what matters is if we learned from them.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Self discovery - the journey of a lifetime

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Know thyself...congrats. I can say with certainty that the guilt of affecting ones close to you will never leave you. Light comes from darkness.