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You're overthinking it.
Parents just want their lives back. Plain and simple.
When your kids are 18+ they shouldn't be impacting your life that much, assuming you spent the time doing things like chores, boundaries, etc as they were growing up. I moved out at 25. I bought groceries, did yard work, helped clean the house, did my own laundry, etc. I don't care if my kids choose to stay with me past 18.
That's the difference between having an "adult child" and a "responsible adult" living with their parents.
Not every parent has the latter 😂
There are horror stories of adult children abusing their parents and basically taking over to house.
But honestly, even with a responsible adult child in the home, it's not the same as having an empty nest. And I'm sure it works both ways with the adults living at home, feeling like they want their own space and not just shared living quarters.
We want to have loud, animalistic sex on my kitchen counter at 3pm.
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The key term is delayed adolescence. Having a 19 year old that has a job, does their own laundry, pays their own bills, etc is different from someone who is still on mom and dad's insurance and phone plans, not paying rent, and not buying groceries.
As an example, at 25 I was working full time and my boss was 10 years older than me. My car insurance went up and I was complaining about it to my boss. Overall he didn't think it was a big deal, but the next day he came in and told me that our conversation had got him thinking. Turns out his parents were still paying for his phone bill and car insurance. A 35 year old man living on his own and his parents were still paying his fucking bills and, icing on the cake, he wasn't aware of it.
We don't fit in our house I don't need all three to leave, but I need one of them to. I don't have an office/personal space.
I also don't have an office space and worked covid from my basement. I think modern homes are too big, but I also totally get the desire for a home office. Unfortunately, for me at least, most homes that have an office also come with things like a formal dining room which seem like a waste of square footage.
I don't have a basement or an attic. My oldest sleeps in part of what once was a one car garage garage. It now is a laundry room and a small bedroom. There are many nights when the only place we don't have someone sleeping is the kitchen, the laundry room and the two bathrooms. I really could use an office space tho. I've been working from home more in 2025 than any other year and my PC is in the living room but there are often teenagers sleeping in there and I like to start working around 5am because my wife gets up for work at 4. I'm just waiting it out at this point, one of these kids will move out someday. Right?
Right?
That does sound pretty tight. We're very fortunate to have a basement, which is pretty common in the Midwest but not universal. Without it the covid years would have been very tough, especially since our kids were very young at the time and wouldn't have understood "parent working". We wound up having to put a lock on our basement door.
The way your post reads, it seems like you're doing the best you can. I'm sure a kid will move out someday and wish you the best both before and after that occurs!
Yeah they're 20, 17 and 15. It could still be a few more years but we're making changes to keep the living room more free. It's also been extra challenging because for the last six months my job has been going through big changes and I haven't had an office at work either, which is why I've been working at home more. I can't tell you how many hours I've worked standing in my kitchen, sitting at a conference table alone at work, or working from my car or a cafe or something. It's actually been really cool, but sometimes really challenging.