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If you read my previous post on other place I asked about dating and most responses sounded like it was nice. Yes, I'm aware that relationships are not only good times (I've seen my mother being tired of her partner and scared of my father) but when you have literally NOTHING in your life you can't help to idolising the things you never had...

I don't think that's weird, but it's definitely sad

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 days ago

Thing is, that a relationship can be very fulfilling, this is true.

But thinking, that being in a relationship will fix a bad view on life or problems, the relationship will suffer.
Relationship is work. And often very painful work, because you have to step over your shadow and accept, that some of your deeply treasured perspectives (that protected you in times of pain) are now just wrong and destroy said relationship

So starting to work on yourself and being content with yourself is always the first step. Else the relationship will be even harder to work through those issues

At least that was my experience
But yeah, having someone to love is great and having someone to love you is nice.