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Being loved or at least desired by someone must be nice (lemmings.world)

submitted 4 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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If you read my previous post on other place I asked about dating and most responses sounded like it was nice. Yes, I'm aware that relationships are not only good times (I've seen my mother being tired of her partner and scared of my father) but when you have literally NOTHING in your life you can't help to idolising the things you never had...

I don't think that's weird, but it's definitely sad

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Hi!

I understand that you're feeling frustrated, but it's important to consider that there are so many great things in life other than sex and reproduction. You're not a failure, you're still young, and there's so many great things to see, learn, and do! There are even people who choose not to have sex, get into a romantic relationship, or have kids, and they're capable of living happy lives. Your purpose in life is whatever you want it to be.

There's over 8 billion people on this planet, and finding someone who loves you for you is just a matter of when, not if. For now, I'd think about why you feel the need to put yourself down this much. What makes you think that you have literally nothing in your life, and what would make you reconsider that thought? Do you really feel that you have nothing and you need to be in a relationship with someone to have something, or is it something that others have pressured you into believing?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

People don't have access to the 8 billion human beings. So that logic makes no sense. I have NOTHING. Barely work, still live with my mother, can't drive, don't have savings or money, I don't have the skills to attract people, I have nothing.

I didn't choose anything though. I'm cursed with a sexless and cold life.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I never said they do, but with how many people there are, it's pretty much inevitable that you'll find someone who is into you and loves you for you. What's wrong with living with family? I think it's a good thing for family to stick together.

You say you can't drive. What's preventing you from learning? As for work, have you tried getting a mentor? Mentors can be free or they can be paid, but they can help put you on a career path that suits you, and provide feedback and guidance. They can help you achieve what goal(s) you have set in mind and to become the best version of yourself.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Read OP's history. While they likely are suffering, they aren't looking to change. Post after post, they just shoot down all the well-meaning attempts to help. Save your efforts

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

Good point. I just spotted the name. I should stop engaging.