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This is why I feel like the whole "body positivity" movement is a god damn joke. It's mostly about women who love munching cake more than having unclogged arteries. In the last decade we got so many shows and movies where the characters can be morbidly obese and everybody should praise them for their bravery. We got even plus sized manikins in stores, wow.
But I dare you to name a single character from a show or movie that is skinny (not jacked skinny, but skinny skinny) that isn't a crackhead junkie, some psycho or a basement dweller with his eyes glued to a screen?
Hell, just name a Hollywood actor that is skinny?
I know one, DJ Qualms, who's arguably most famous role is a disabled person. Great.
I really don't blame women for not preferring skinny guys, I blame Hollywood for 3 decades of horrible PR.
OP is asking about not becoming bitter, here you are, spreading nothing but bitterness.
Oh no, that's like not me at all /s.
That's a very surface level glance at the movement. Don't get me wrong, it is about women who "love munching on cake" because those women should be able to do whatever the fuck they want and still be respected and treated with dignity(~~I also can't ignore that it's an issue for fat women, but not fat men?~~) . You don't have to find fat people attractive, hell, you don't even have to like them, but that doesn't mean that person should be condemned to a life of solitude and ridicule until their body is good enough for society. Life is too short for that. Even if you're working towards health, you should still get to experience the world today. However, that's one piece of of the movement, it is also about stopping the "real women have curves" ideas, and putting body types against each other. It's about how leading men are showing casually jacked forms like that's just what the average guy looks like. It's about men not drinking water before shoots to see their muscles better, even if it leaves them dangerously dehydrated. It's about men who are ridiculed or turned down for their height alone. It's about men like OP who think their body type isn't good enough, it's about the women OP met who automatically deemed OP's value by his apperence. If your complaint is that there aren't enough representations of male body types, that is part of the body positivity movement. These desires are not opposed to each other, but to do one, you have to do the other. You can't have a message of "All these bodies are great, except those." It shouldn't matter how the body got the way it is, or even if the body is healthy. It deserves respect. I don't chastise and belittle thin people, or even "too thin" people, and go, "you need to eat a sandwich. You need to lift weights. I'm just worry about your health after all. God, just eat more. It's not hard." If they're not friends or family, it's none of my fucking business.
For some reason fat people feeling good and desirable about their bodies seems like the worst fucking thing for whatever reason. We have had people doing all kinds of drugs and harmful practices to stay thin, or avoid that ridicule. Fat shouldn't be a social death knell. A condition, sure. Not healthy, fine. Not worth being seen or existing? Not fine.
you do know that's because plus-sized clothing exists too, right? Do you expect stores to just not display their clothes simpy because they're for fat people, or...?
Victor, from Arcane; Ben Wyatt, from Parks and Recreation; Gareth Keenan, from The Office (UK); Ken Cosgrove from Mad Men. I'm sure there are many more, but that's just who I could think of off the top of my head.
I absolutely agree that there should be better representation of men's (and women's, imo) body types, including skinny men. But you're really overestimating the quantity and quality of decent representation of fat women in roles that don't rely on steroetypes. By that, I mean: isn't unhinged/shrill/creepy/portrayed as gross or undesirable because she's fat (and sometimes old)/there solely and shallowly as "the funny fat woman". The majority of roles played by women, especially prominent ones, are still played by thin women.
Fat female characters are relatable and important to have because—whether you like it or not—fat women exist in real life. One simply existing in media does not inherently come with a statement condoning any particular lifestyle as you seem to be implying.
...and? That's a bad thing to you?