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You know this conversation has been challenging to read. The guy you are talking to is clearly an arsehole through and through, and I have also had the displeasure of dealing with them. I do though think you have to be cognizant of the fact that most people with autism do not have full time employment, and is isn't all our fault. Some of the world does conspire against autistic people since we are a minority up to an including attempted genocide of us and other disabled people.
That being said you are 100% correct that autistic people can have personality disorders including narcissism. It's especially funny you managed to find evidence of that within their own source, and they have had to go back and delete the comment. I hope they go and reflex upon there behavior and that's it's not something serious like narcissism that's caused them to act like this. Narcissists do require some amount of sympathy as it's not their fault they ended up that way - it is primarily the products of psychological trauma and genetics after all.
I completely agree with you. I was essentially being as harsh as I could allow myself to be to drive my point across that outright and constant hostility makes for a poor community. My bad if it came off as insensitive, my goal doesn't really excuse how I went about it.
I think when dealing with these types of people being harsh is very much warranted. They earned a harsh response based on their general behavior on this forum. I could easily be as harsh or more if someone managed to piss me off. So you're tone was actually justified and you shouldn't be too harsh on yourself.
You do have to be very careful not to implicate anyone who isn't at fault, and that includes unemployed disabled people including autistic people. That also includes people with personality disorders who are regularly thrown under the bus in a world where the majority Them being unemployed or poor or what have you is as much the fault of society as it is their bad attitude - no one should be poor in an ideal world. That's all I wanted to make clear. That being said there are plenty of disabled people including autistic people who are just arse holes, and it's fine to call them that too.
I sincerely hope we find a way to effectively treat narcissism and other personality disorders one day. It causes as much suffering to the individual in question as it does the people around them.