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Welcome to the Age of Paid Social Media (gizmodo.com)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago (2 children)

For example if I meet a woman I like, it’s infinitely more socially acceptable to ask for her instagram than it is for her number after meeting.

Is this really a thing now? Any idea why it's considered more acceptable? It's definitely not a thing in my social circles and it got me curious.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I live in a major city in the US and it’s definitely common place here. A lot of women justifiably don’t like giving out their personal number due to the number of bad experiences with men. By using IG instead, it provides a buffer.

I have asked for and received numbers but most people typically offer some sort of social media first and then only share numbers after you’ve shown that you’re not a raging creep.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Sounds weird to me as both can be used for the general creepiness and both allow blocking people if needed. I just don't see the benefit of one over the other here.

EDIT: The other comment explained it to me, I understand it now.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Also depends on how you explain why you don’t have any, I originally gave up Facebook because I went through a bad breakup and figured a break would be for the best, the only time I ever logged in again was to delete it, Instagram came shortly after. I don’t think I’ve asked for anyone’s number that told me no after telling them why I’m difficult to Google, and in my experience most people treat social media the way a 20 year smoker treats cigarettes, they know they should quit and intend to at some nebulous point in the future

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Any idea why it's considered more acceptable?

Because it's far less susceptible to abuse. The block button will deal with anyone being a creep or asshole.

If someone wanted to be abusive, they could come by the address you gave them to send letters or bombard your phone with abuse via the number you gave them for texting.

Even for phones that can block calls and texts coming from a given number, withheld numbers are a thing and they could still sign you up to all sorts of SMS services.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Thanks for the explanation, that makes sense! I didn't consider all these other possibilities.