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America Is Sick of Swiping (www.theatlantic.com)
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[–] [email protected] 25 points 7 months ago (3 children)

The last time I saw someone ask this question, the general response was to start participating in new hobbies and meeting people. Considering that our time is typically already packed full if you try and eat healthy, have a job, go to the gym, hang out with friends there isn’t a whole lot of extra time for new hobbies and activities. That response always felt so empty like if I had that much free time I would have already been doing something fun with it. Dating apps seem to me like the only option to date outside your existing social circle. It’s a sign of the times and our lack of time.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Hot take: if you have so little free time that the best you can do is phone time, maybe you need to work on priorities or time management.

I get it. I also have shit time management and spend too much free time on my phone, when I could be replacing an hour spent on my phone with an hour at a nearby coffee shop reading a book, or participating in an hour social club once per week.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

start participating in new hobbies

What if I already have hobbies? I'm not rich enough to stop working, my time is limited. Also what's the link between hobbies and dating?

meeting people

"Want to meet people? Easy, just meet new people!"

Useless advice. Meeting new people outside of work or school is practically impossible. People giving this kind of advice never explain how to do it, because they don't know themselves.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

eat healthy, have a job, go to the gym, hang out with friends

  1. Cook a healthy meal and share it with other people. Meals are a perfect time to socialise. I met my partner at a Christmas lunch a decade ago for example.
  2. Find a job where you interact with other people, avoid jobs where you sit in a home office all day by yourself.
  3. Personally I think gyms are terrible. Some sort of sport (even just group running) is more fun, a better workout because competition will drive you to work harder, and you will meet new people.
  4. Don't just hang out with friends. Encourage everyone in your social circle to invite new people into the group. Most of them won't be a perfect fit and will naturally orbit out, but a few will stick.