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[โ€“] [email protected] 23 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

No.

My mom got double brain aneurism. Had her head cut open to put clamps on the leaking arteries.

Slipped into a coma, few days later doctor came in to convince us for prepping her for organ donor, dad said it was too early.

Another few days later doctors came in being really rude that all she was good for was organ donor. Had a heated conversation with my dad who got tired and said "fck off doctors".

Few days later she woke up. After revalidation she has a healthy life, this was 37yrs ago, she still lives, she is 71.

My dad told my awake mum and since I was underaged opted me out for organ donor. Needles to say, I am reluctant to opt myself back in.

Optional read: aftermath of the aneurism is that the part of the brain to process visual data was damaged. Other parts of her brain took that role but is not as effective. Her depth perception any further that 10m is gone. She has no vertical peripheral processing, so she has to tilt her head up or down to recognize what she noticed i' her peripheral, one cannot imagine this seeing something but unable to recognize until you point your head at it :) in the end, very good outcome.

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Damn that's double fucked. What a disappointing story. I've still got myself down for organ donation because it's more likely to be done in good will than not, but that's a very sad story.

Do people pay for organ transplants where you are? I wonder if it's not necessarily altruism but money that is pushing the doctor's hand to jump the gun.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

No people do not pay, it is a national waiting list of first come first go. I live in Belgium, mom's doctors were from France (specialists). We are supposed to be at the top of free and good health care. So this did not happen in some back lawsless country. (don't mean this patronizing)

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

That's like donating to wikipedia, you think you're doing a good thing but they reveal pretty quickly how big of a mistake that actually was.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

They require you give them an email and then once you do they spam it relentlessly.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Maybe they've changed because I donate and also contribute as an editor, and checking my email, I've only received one email* from them all year, and that was on January 6th titled "A record of your support for Wikipedia" from the Wikimedia Foundation, and it was a thanks and a tax receipt.

Maybe there's a consent checkbox somewhere that I don't remember unchecking.

*not counting notifications received in my role as contributor.