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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Can you offer some examples of where "being vulnerable" led a man out of depression?

I do agree that there is a culture of masculine shame around mental health, and it can be unhealthy. But I've also seen that those who share their feelings don't get the promotion, tend to make coworkers uncomfortable, drive women away. Life is still a competition and vulnerability is genuinely risky.

I've seen bullies strategically share false vulnerability to garner sympathy. Genuine vulnerability often looks gross from a man, and is unlikely to lead to positive outcomes.

Most importantly, this new wave of mental health problems is not caused by a new wave of "not being vulnerable." It's a societal issue and must be confronted there, not shunted onto each individual man.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

When you vaguely tell somebody to read more it's because you have no actual argument.

There is no connection to environmental issues. They are doing this to look cool to their friends.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

No, but they should be coherent and meaningful. These fools (or possibly goons for oil companies) who attack paintings are only making environmentalism look utterly stupid. They are openly mocked by everybody because they're lashing out incoherently.

They're actively working against environmentalism. I really think they're bad, selfish, narcissistic, and stupid people. They don't care about the environment.

There is absolutely no reason to think their ridiculous behavior could possibly help the environment.

 

I need to just pick a distro, install it on all my laptops, and become an expert on that one. Forget the rest!

I've got Void on my T420 (for writing), Mint on another T420 (hosting my music files) and an x380 yoga (with ubuntu studio controls for music production), NixOS on a T440p and a T430, and EndeavourOS on my T16. Previously I ran Arch and Debian on a couple machines, too.

Arch is really fun. I probably just enjoy giving in to my OCD tendancies, so that gets satisfied with my EndeavourOS install. That SHOULD be my final distro, the one that I use forever, eschewing all others.

But there are two problems:

  1. Too many updates. I fear leaving a laptop in the drawer for a few months and then it crashes when I update it.
  2. I'm getting nixpilled

Nix is obviously awesome. I love having that master config file. But the nix repos aren't as robust, and there's a learning curve to getting everything to work. So now I'm telling myself, "become an expert at nix and then you'll finally find your home!"

But meanwhile Debian beckons. It's so tempting to just go back to the safest, stablest distro with all the packages and all the documentation.

I know this is silly but it actually bugs me. Why can't I just pick a distro?

Has anybody gone through this and then actually made the decisive move to stick to a distro? What compelled you to finally pick one?