exocrinous

joined 9 months ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Good thing Risa's still around. The other one bans people for having a mental disorder

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

I upvoted it. I don't think it's literally just as bad as meta, but I still think it's bad. Websites should let you opt out of cookies in one click. If they don't, I prefer not to use them. I'm sure this website's article is very important, but if they want their journalism to be read they should present it in a respectful manner. Otherwise I'm just reading the headline. I like the headline, it's a good headline, it will inform my views going forward. I will not read the article and I will not give them ad traffic.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Nah. If you love each other a proposal doesn't matter in comparison. Healthy love is bigger than that. A proposal can be a big moment, but not as big as actually having a solid relationship. You can fix it. And if you do, one day you might be telling that story at the wedding and laughing about it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Just say "That's lot from me, that's from Jose, the immigrant trapped in a sobe factory who is being enslaved by Pepsi Co under threat of deportation, and needs a marriage visa so he can pursue his dream of becoming a tailor. If you want to marry Jose, go ahead."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (6 children)

No, I've actually only ever had two partners who were monoamorous by default. The first two. Everyone afterwards immediately knew I was poly without having to be told. And was poly too. I mean I would have asked them to consent to being metamours with all my existing partners anyway so definitely no cheating since you brought that weird point up. But if you're now deciding the point is people's assumptions, everyone I know assumes people are poly. If someone in my circles is monoam they actually have it listed in their bio so everyone knows not to flirt with them.

Sounds like I just have gayer friends than you do and you're assuming everyone is like your boring friends.

Do you even have any otherkin friends?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (10 children)

What the everliving fuck. Of course I ask all my partners to give consent before I add someone new to my polycule. Every single time. Do you add new people to your polycule without consulting your partners just because they're polyamorous? That's cheating.

I don't have to "tell" my partners I'm poly, because I don't cheat. If you think you can just tell your partners you're poly and then date whoever you want, you're wrong and that's a dangerous belief. Please never tell anyone else that polyamoury works like that, because it doesn't. I've had to educate far too many partners who thought like you and would have cheated on me if I hadn't been careful to establish explicit boundaries.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Well, that makes daylight savings sound nicer, but a consistent time is still more important to me. My partners live in places with daylight savings and the adjustment always causes misery for everyone.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 7 months ago

They shouldn't. Lots of people don't even know polyamoury is an option, and they're groomed from early childhood to understand relationships as exclusive and to get jealous. That's a toxic culture. It's okay to have complicated and difficult feelings, that's part of being human, but it's not okay to pressure children into sharing those feelings as they get older.

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