I build ISP and private data networks for a living.
A contention ratio for residential circuits of 3 to 1 isn't bad at all. You'd have to get pretty unlucky with your neighbors being raging pirates to be able to tell that was contended at all. Any data cap should scare the worst of the pirates away, so you probably won't be in that situation.
If you can feel the circuit getting worse at different times of the day then the effective contention ( taking into account further upstream ) is probably more like 30 to 1 than 3 to 1.
No, if two 300 megabit tails are shaped correctly, a third user shouldn't notice that the 1G backhaul has got a bunch of use going on.
If you do, there's something wrong or you aren't really getting the 1G for some reason. Not generally a concern in a carrier platform.