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i just find it hilarious! i didn't mean that to contradict or try to correct you lol, i apologIze if my tone was off

it IS effectively the same poster, which makes it more amusing to me that the differences are there

like if you look at the shape of the pants for example. it is definitely the same base image underneath the details

okay but wait, they're not even exact

but at the same time they are clearly related, it looks like most of the same shapes are there, but yours has a hair flip and a collared over shirt

i am curious why there are variations on the same image

Comedy can be and is used to make real criticisms of the world and various institutions. "It's just a joke" is one of the most common lies.

People can laugh at the joke, or disagree with the criticism it communicates, or both, or neither.

But having and exercising critical thinking skills when engaging with memes in a meme community full of scholars and academics is exactly what I would expect.

x = 5/9 is not 9/9. 5/9 = .55555...

You're proving that 0.555... equals 5/9 (which it does), not that it equals 1 (which it doesn't).

It's absolutely not the same result as x = 0.999... as you claim.

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I agree and love that strategy! I just brought it up in another comment before I read this one.

This is the way I'd prefer to use the word "sorry" but I have adapted to using it more liberally for masking and it often takes significant effort to come up with alternatives. Hence this post, really.

I was using apologies as an example and was unclear about the actual point, I think. I doubted my own autism because I know and understand that "sorry" doesn't always mean sorry and when and why.

And yet I was struggling with the idea of using it that way because it conflicts with my brain and values, and spending a disproportionate amount of time trying to figure out how to write the greeting.

Like spending 30+ minutes deliberating over the absolute least important part of an email due to social anxiety over language use... No, I couldn't possibly be autistic (/sarcasm).

I don't think "Sorry is only for actual apologizing" is how everyone communicates, though. It's a nicety or etiquette thing the same way people ask "How are you?" as a greeting without expecting—or wanting—a genuine answer.

I would prefer not to over-apologize or have a polite nicety misunderstood because it's awkward, but sometimes it also feels necessary for masking reasons.

But while misleading, my post was about doubting my own autism while spending a disproportionate amount of brainspace on how to write a greeting in an email.

I completely agree. This is why I was agonizing over the email! The whole "It seems polite to say it" vs. "I must avoid needless apologies."

For the times I feel tempted to over-apologize out of insecurity or shame, my favorite apology replacement strategy is saying thanks instead.

"Thanks for waiting" instead of "Sorry that took so long."

"now people don't know if your ok when you say your ok."

Well that's basically the truth right there. I would love if people were considerate of my slow processing and tendency to misspeak, and learned that what I say on the spot might not hold, and maybe they should check in with me later. I didn't lie— but I didn't have all the information settled in my head yet.

I do try to communicate my slow processing when possible, to give context to that. If people avoid me because existing with the brain I have makes me "a problem," good fucking riddance. I don't need more of those people in my life.

Like, give me some time to think about it??? Why can't that be common courtesy???

just a funny one:

following instructions, apparently?

as a youth, we had a guest lecture at school (computing) and were given a software tutorial to follow. i completed it and the instructors were impressed, to my absolute confusion.

"i just... followed the instructions?"

"you'd be surprised how many can't do that!"

in hindsight, i do wonder if it's a slight autism "perk" just because i think literally and follow instructions accurately so long as they aren't vague. i wonder if some people will struggle with specific instructions but excel at parsing vague things.

it's just so funny to me to get complimented on that specifically. but also the student teaching assistant was definitely flirting, which baby autistic me DID pick up on but considered mostly irrelevant to the strange praise??? xD

it does genuinely depend on the people involved. as much as ND's love to go "ugh, neurotypicals" (myself included) a lot of the stuff we rant about isn't specifically definative of NT.

in my experience, i have struggled mostly with people who could not imagine anything outside of their own personal experience, to the extent of disbelieving those other experiences exist.

i don't wish a partner like that for any autist. no matter how much they "love" you and want to "help" you. that is hell. that is death.

but a NT who acknowledges and accepts different inner experiences, and may even be curious about them, could make an amazing partner. they may not instinctively understand right away, but they will believe you. i think that's a fundamental prerequisite that a lot of NTs lack because they encounter more people who are like them than people who aren't.

like, i get when you meet 99 people who think the temperature in the room is incredibly pleasant, you might be baffled by the 1 person who is in sensory hell. but many people lack the imagination to think that person is legitimately uncomfortable, and instead think they want attention or something.

NDs are usually the odd ones out and so tend to encounter more people who are different than the same. and so it may be categorically easier to understand that people experience the world differently than us because that is kind of the main social issue we face most days our entire life.