This is an interesting question. My husband is my ONE. Wherever he is, that's home. We are absolutely best friends & more. We share absolutely everything & neither of us ever have to worry about the other one waking up one day & deciding to move on without the other.
I realize I'm lucky. Not every relationship is anywhere close to that. I was married before & lived with others... And I thought the "one true love" stuff & long-term monogamy was complete BS until he & I got together.
But not everyone wants the kind of relationship we have & that's fine too. I have plenty of independent & awesome friends who have great friends, great lives, great hobbies; they adventure, travel, are fulfilled, etc etc all without an SO. Others who are in great relationships but are much more prone to doing things separately, and that's what works for them.
So maybe if you don't have that drive to find that relationship, maybe it's not for you or maybe you just haven't met the right kind of person yet. Your SO relationship can ultimately be whatever you want it to be, provided you find a partner agreeable with it. Best wishes either way!
You keep saying this, but you don't speak for all women. I am a woman who does not care one flying fuck if the other ladies in the restroom were born with a penis, a vagina, or some variation thereof. I care much more about whether they flush & wipe the seat.
I'm certain you're not conflating trans with violent, right?? Or sticking up for people who do?