DelvianSeek

I know this is an old post by now, but I've been away from lemmynsfw for a while and just now catching up. Wanted to thank you for this - it's really interesting and some good info for anyone else maybe trying to follow in your footsteps. I can only imagine the devious plans you have in mind...

First off, a good edging like this is one of the greatest things ever - such a wonderful combination of pleasure and frustration, it's mind-blowing.

Second, I find the idea of handing over real ownership of my cock to someone else, like you describe in your last paragraph, to be one of the hottest fantasies out there. For me, one of the fantasies along those lines that often goes through my mind is not the idea of permanent chastity (in the sense of never being unlocked, though sure that can be a hot fantasy at times), but the idea of never touching my own penis. Imagine if you were to tell Luke that he'll be unlocked from time to time, you'll edge him, occasionally you might even fuck or suck him if you feel like it, and he might even get the occasional orgasm. But only you get to touch that dick when it's out of the cage. That he'll never actually touch his own penis again because it's yours and you don't want anyone else playing with it!

(Of course you're the one in charge and you can always change your mind, but imagine what a mind-fuck that would be for him)

Thanks for posting!

Congratulations and good work!

Oh that's really a bummer :-(

What about making a free onlyfans or fansly where someone could "tip" to donate? You wouldn't have to actually put up any content.

First and foremost - thank you for everything you do running lemmynsfw. You're doing an amazing job and I, for one, appreciate it tremendously.

Re: downvotes, I still believe that downvotes open only to community members is the way to go, but I appreciate you're doing what you feel is best and if you think it's genuinely improving things to turn them off entirely, you do what you need to do. I'm willing to be convinced, I truly am, but I haven't been yet. That said, I found a workaround to my biggest problem with it - hiding read posts without voting - so I don't have to upvote things I don't like just to make them go away. With that in place, I can live with it. At the end of the day, I just want to be able to browse without seeing the same posts more than once.

Re: donations, it's truly a shame that you haven't been able to set something up. I was here right at the beginning, and I was a very early donor, because I truly believe that Lemmy needs a dedicated place for NSFW content, I want lemmynsfw (and Lemmy as a whole) to succeed, and I understand how much it costs to host such a place. So I'd be very happy to donate again if you can find a channel. That said, I don't want to have to do so using some sort of cryptocurrency. Not only because, like Lemmy itself, it's not quite there yet in terms of usability, but also because (unlike Lemmy), at the end of the day I find the entire crypto world to be very scammy and shady, rampant with bad actors. Not to mention that Trocador app you linked to elsewhere doesn't seem to handle setting up monthly recurring donations, which is what I'd like to do.

My suggestion would be to investigate Epoch as a payment processor. I have joined multiple porn sites in the past, and they've all used Epoch for their billing, and at least I personally have never had a problem. They seem on the up-and-up to me (but again, I said investigate - please do your own due diligence). What I don't know is if they handle one-time donations, or if they just do monthly billing.

Re: Gallery, I'll be honest I'm not that interested in new UI's for Lemmy. The default UI + TamperMonkey scripts (LemmyTools + Lemmy Keyboard Navigation) work great for me and pretty much reproduce old.reddit on PC, and Sync took me all of 2 or 3 days to adjust to on Android and now I'm cool with it. I think it's wonderful you want to keep contributing to the Lemmy universe, and it's awesome you found someone to help, but just speaking for myself, I'd view this one as pretty low priority.

Once again, thank you. You invest so much time and energy here it's crazy. Hope you get the donation channel issue worked out very soon, so I can start contributing again.

I was going to write a long point-by-point refutation of your post, but in the end it boiled down to this:

Dude, blame capitalism for pushing people to sell their bodies for money. If you really care about the degradation of women in porn, devote your time and money to anti-capitalist causes, from universal health care to supporting living minimum wages rather than poverty-level minimum wages, from universal basic income to building guillotines for billionaires. Those things will do far more to help women than trying to blame individual porn stars for the degradation of women and making them somehow responsible for working for women's equality. At best they are making content that they personally enjoy and at worst they are doing what they need to pay the bills. It's capitalism that drives young women to get into porn who don't really want to be there or don't have the maturity to be there and as a result get taken advantage of.

And stop gatekeeping what people like in the bedroom. Some people like slow sensual lovemaking. Some people like to be hurt and degraded. Some people like whips, chains, and leather. Some people just want missionary with the lights off. It's all good, and if you don't like it don't watch it.

Don't know if it was the same thread you're referring to, but I posted here earlier that I found it came in waves when I was locked up long-term. And that's just it - really horny for a couple of weeks, then it fades for a couple of weeks, then comes back after a while, and so forth. Of course, teasing helps keep the horniness going, especially during the downtimes, so if you do have a keyholder who is open to that, you should discuss it with them. That said, I'm about as far from asexual as you can get, so our experiences may differ, and maybe for you that feeling won't come back after it dissipates. The only real way to know is to try it.

Wonderful story, absolutely loving your adventures! I think an erection and a cumless handjob is a very nice reward for him.