Biapathy

I agree! The colors give it simultaneously a mermaid and unicorn vibe at the same time!

I really like this one!

You could downvote from another account but it wouldn't be federated and tallied for anything but your home instance.

I really don't think anything has fundamentally changed with the community or platform since the decision to remove downvotes in the first place. I just don't think the population of Lemmy as a whole is large enough or mature enough to use them in a responsible manner and it will continue to be used as a "this isn't my fetish" button rather than any indication of quality or community relevance just like before.

I agree that the spam problem has gotten worse over time, but I really don't see downvotes doing very much to fix that. Most of it is from content sellers. They only need one post to do well to get their visibility and they almost always get at least that much so they still end up rewarded for the behavior in the end.

If they post that same thing in a community about fetish x, then the community can simply be blocked by those so inclined.

The problem is the majority of people don't actually do that. They just downvote it to oblivion. That's a significant part of why they were turned off in the first place.

I agree with the secondary reasoning of irrelevant community posts. I report quite a few posts for that(mostly from content creators just spamming any and every community). Running a test is fine, but I don't think much has changed about the primary reasoning though I'm afraid. It might help with the spam at least because that's been bad recently.

It was a deliberate choice that was made about a year ago due to a lot of brigading and people being generally shitty to the already limited number of posters. I don't think anything has changed regarding this though. I'm not sure what you mean by changing post formatting though as it really shouldn't affect that.

I was disappointed to see it as well and I don't expect positive outcomes to come from it. We'll see what happens though I guess.

You're not blind. Downvotes were re-enabled again yesterday. There's been no communication from admin regarding it though.

It looks like you've got the cleaning part covered. I can certainly help dirty them up again for you 😉

Yes, a large part of it is simply understanding and being in tune with your body. There's certainly more to it though. Giving him toys to practice will definitely be a good way to move towards that if it's a goal, but I would simply say to exercise caution in trying to explicitly force it through your scenes and overarching control dynamics until he's ready and capable or else it's just setting the stage for failure and frustration. That is unless putting him in a failing position is your goal in the first place of course.

It's actually not easy at all to cum from just anal stimulation unless he is actively working towards it as a goal. You can achieve a lot of the same sensations as actually cumming, which can be both amazing and frustrating at the same time(loosely as you describe), but to get a physical result takes a bit of retraining your bodies stimuli response. It took me the better part of a year before I was able to for the first time.

From a control and denial standpoint this is perfectly fine thing to play with, but if it's something that you're setting as a legitimate expectation just be sure that you understand this. It's not going to happen on command likely the first few times.