You did it. Count me among the folks who would reply to you.
this post was submitted on 09 May 2025
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Hi what do you want to talk about? Im down to chat.
I DM'd you.
Finding community in the modern age requires you to get interested and participate in something specific. Specific communities are often on Discord or equivalent, for example I'm super into some very specific video games with thriving communities, into specific genres of books and have found like minded people, love chatting about specific computing topics, etc. Specialize your interests and find others who have done the same
You know any discord servers for readers of sci-fi? I've looked around a couple times and the ones I've found are either tiny and inactive or huge and have way too much going on.
I started watching live stream on twitch of a specific category that interested me. The people who stream this category collaborate with one another and each have their own community of people who follow.
I watched some really small streams and chatted with people. I do mean small as well, probably originally most of these streams had something like 6 viewers. Over a long period of time you come to know people in a stream group - and then because of the collaboration you come to know more people. There is usually a discord server or some such where these people talk when there is no stream as well.
Now, 5 or more years later, I'm probably in something like 18 discord groups where I talk to a lot of people regularly, or DM with quite a lot. By proximity and a loose shared interest, we all now know quite intimate details of each others lives and talk about all kinds of anything and everything.
Friendship is not really a fast process, but you just have to find places to plant seeds and see what grows.
Find a discord server with some folks you share interests with and talk to them. I joined a ~300-person gaming/tabletop community a couple years ago and while I don't have any really close friends among them, they're great to chat and hang out and play games with. I've taken to spending the last couple hours of most days just hanging out in voice with people and shooting the shit, it's great.
Online book clubs are kind of a thing.
Welcome to Lemmy, just find a community and start chatting. If it's dead/empty, start filling it.
I try to open myself up to people as best I can here and on Mastodon just because we're pretty used to the algorithm TM deciding who we talk to or where we engage for a long time now and I don't think we are collectively ready to have non-hostile "discussions" in that we just don't know how to do it.
What's been on your mind? If you don't wanna share here try the casual conversations community. They might be better to receive you.
Joining a book and 2 movie clubs was one of the best things I've done in recent years. The book club sadly fizzled cause people didn't have time, but we have a bi-weekly movie club where we pick complex, difficult movies and talk about their themes and such, and a monthly kung-fu movie night where we just hang out and watch silly movies, and they're the highlight of my online week.