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I wouldn't say "unaccepting", but I really just did not like kids at all. I didn't enjoy playing with them, or even being around them because I felt I had to moderate myself due to their presence.
Then I had kids and now I really enjoy being around kids, playing with them, and talking to them, even ones that aren't my own.
Same. All my life I didn't like being around kids, being in places with lots of children, being with nieces, nephews etc. I found them loud and unpredictable, like belligerent little drunks with attention seeking problems.
But then I got married, and we had kids, and I suddenly don't mind anymore. Probably an evolutionary adaptation. But there are still certain kids I can't tollerate, but that's more likely the parents fault, not the kids fault.
No your brain has a parenting mode. I think it's also been proven scientifically but I cabt remember the names of any articles it was related to father's or males and parenthood in relation to personal exposure to children.
I made a promise to myself that no matter what, I would love my children. It's not my life, it is their life to live and find happiness and fullfillement. And if my children are happy, I am happy. Nothing more, nothing less.
Not quite. I grew up with a lot of racism that took time to undo and is still ongoing.
But that didn't impact my kiddo directly as they're not targetted by racism.
However, I found out that I'm adhd due to my kid being diagnosed, and I was out as queer before them. So we have intersections in common that we've both been working through at the same time.
I never had a problem with any group, I am generally passively in support of people I don't have much connection to. However before I had my child I started becoming more actively supportive simply because he COULD be. But even groups that my son can't possibly be (minority for example) I've been supporting them more because the compassion in me is higher than it was. Like, I always cared, but I wasn't as driven to care, if that makes sense?
No. As far as I know my kids arenβt apart of any of those groups, yet I already accept them completely anyways.