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parents, were any of you not understanding/unaccepting of a certain group (ex: lgbt, neurodivergent) but became more accepting once you found out your kid was part of it? (sh.itjust.works)

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husband and i are both autistic, so we were always very accepting of others. we’re also both bisexual, my husband being almost exclusively gay except for when it comes to me.

when we found out our 15-year-old leo was gay, we were very happy for him and we told him that he was still our leo we loved.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I wouldn't say "unaccepting", but I really just did not like kids at all. I didn't enjoy playing with them, or even being around them because I felt I had to moderate myself due to their presence.

Then I had kids and now I really enjoy being around kids, playing with them, and talking to them, even ones that aren't my own.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Same. All my life I didn't like being around kids, being in places with lots of children, being with nieces, nephews etc. I found them loud and unpredictable, like belligerent little drunks with attention seeking problems.

But then I got married, and we had kids, and I suddenly don't mind anymore. Probably an evolutionary adaptation. But there are still certain kids I can't tollerate, but that's more likely the parents fault, not the kids fault.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

No your brain has a parenting mode. I think it's also been proven scientifically but I cabt remember the names of any articles it was related to father's or males and parenthood in relation to personal exposure to children.