I have a ticket out of the US
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I live in the US, and with the state of things I have decided to make my life more analog and disconnected this year, and for the foreseeable future. Instead of online games, I do puzzles and listen to audiobooks. Instead of doom scrolling for hours, I've decided I'm going to start backpacking. Instead of watching so much TV, I've been reading more.
All of these things are helping bring me peace. I've been pack training with my dog, which means doing longer day hikes with a heavy pack for each of us, and it's just been so nice. I'm losing weight without trying (which is a good thing as I'm overweight), I'm seeing parts of my area I've never seen, and spending fantastic quality time with my dog. This weekend we're doing a shakedown car camp to see how he does in my smaller backpacking tent and I am SO excited. In 3 weeks we go on our first backpacking trip with a friend, and I'm already dreaming of future trips. All of this is huge for us because I'm allergic to the sun (literally) and he (my dog) is very sensitive to heat, and allergic to wasps (we have to carry epipens for him) so deciding to spend time outdoors has taken a lot of consideration, determination and planning, but we're doing it. I'm so excited for the adventures we'll have, I can't even put my emotions into words.
Sunlight, food, my handsome partner, orgasms, music from my past, sleep, my cat, socializing while playing videogames, the knowledge that I'm improving my physical state, angry validation from other queers, peace and quiet, masturbation, porn, drugs, knowledge in general, good anime, the long healthy grass I can see from my window, drinking cool clean fresh water, the filthiest queer poly cnc abo smut i can find, the degoogle tech movement, the anti-facist movement in paris, luigi followers, star trek, ice cream, gw2, making music, carbonated beverages, getting better at things, seeing pictures of myself in threesomes, looking forwards to good things :) in the future, being lusted after, being loved, feeling love for others, trying to find my people, learning about myself, meditation, the fediverse and being able to speak relatively freely again, living in a liberal area, knowledge that I live in a liberal area and don't have to fear as much, cozy outfits, cuddling, piracy, helping make technology that I believe is ethically good, seeing people that also want to do good in the world and have a spine about it,
Yeah that's all I've got for now.. basically it circles around setting the good things in life, no matter how small, and also appreciating the few objectively nice things I do have in life, like a loving partner and my functioning senses.
Getting together with my friends online a couple times a week to play R.E.P.O.. I've been going through a rough patch with my fiance recently and being able to get out of my head and sneak around haunted houses has been really helpful
Gaming with the pals, one of the great pleasures in life, I'm glad you have that going for you!
Iβm very happy to be a land owner. Just a few months ago I bought some land and now live in an RV on the land. Tomorrow we drive about 7 hours round trip and get the last of our stuff from storage. So happy to not pay that rent anymore.
We have fresh air, beautiful views, and tons of space to work on projects, free electric from solar, and soon free water from rain. I canβt wait to start our garden soon, then it will be free groceries.
Cycling now that the weather's warmer. My family and pets. Coffee and word games.
Thanks for the reminder to look for the good. I often feel like there should be so much more, but I know that's more than some people have, so I should feel lucky.
My pleasure, it's actually brought me great joy to read about everyone else's slices of happiness π
β¦ not much.
My romantic life is painful and turbulent at best. My job is collapsing because of the tariffs. I owe too much on my car to keep it if I lose my job and it needs a new clutch anyways, which is about $3000 that I donβt have for the cheap one. Family is distant, cold, and unsupportive. My government is doing its best to make life (as a trans person) as painful as possible. Best friend died last year, my only other friend has just kinda fallen off the face of the earth. My hobbies are frustrating and unfulfilling. I have vivid nightmares nightly. My body is deteriorating to the point of near disability. I eat the same shitty $5 chicken sandwhich every day. Insurance wonβt cover therapy and suicide seems more and more likely by the day.
My coffee was warm this morning though so, I guess Iβve got that going for me today.
Damn, that's all so very heavy. Honestly, I wish I had prefaced this post in some way, because the truth of the matter is that not everyone is feeling happiness these days. I'm really sorry, especially for the persecution trans people are experiencing, y'all unequivocally do not deserve any of that. I hope things improve, and that you're able to find peace, safety, and meaningful happiness in your life, you deserve it β€οΈ
I am about to get married =)
Congratulations to you, I hope you have a lovely day and life together β€οΈ
That all of my recent health issues the last 3 months were temporary.
I'm a month away from completing my union electrician apprenticeship. It's been a lot of work, and there is plenty more to come. But after five years of working towards something, it'll be nice to reach a big milestone.
Congrats! I rememeber finishing mine and it was a lot of work. Just remember to take care of your body and especially your ears! My body has started to hurt in my wrists from all marrets and wire twisting
Partner and kitties. When they (kitties) aren't screaming at me while I'm on the phone for work while wfh. So fucking rude. That's sarcasm. No one seems able to infer it anymore.
Cats are brats but too cute so they can get away with whatever
I'm really struggling but actually doing extremely well, all things considered. We've had a hostile takeover so even if I keep my job, it really feels like it's going to shit. My garage was broken into and my bikes nicked or damaged - that really sucks bug moreso because is my main hobby, exercise and coping mechanism :(
I'm hoping I can order a new mountain bike with a gearbox, so that'll be really exciting - but it's ages away at best.
The reality is my family love me and I'm successful, so in real terms, things are good - but I really need to work on my imposter syndrome and inner accuser!
I'm aware that it makes people cringe, but it's so true that I've never been more happy; more bottoms than a top could ever ask for... Enough to over come the negativety from all the judgemental or bitter queens.
Right this very second, my chicken preening herself next to me, occasionally pausing to make sure I see her preening herself so that I continue to sweetly praise her
The closest friend i made since moving abroad alone 2 years ago, changed their mind and they are not moving out of the city. Also, two of my favorite bands put out killer new albums that fit the eternal combo of coffee+tobacco really well
lol
What is a better expression of happiness than laughing out loud?
I was able to revive my old PlayStation 2 thanks to Hacks and Homebrew and I'm replaying several games from my childhood apart from playing several others that I couldn't at the time, and I'm having a wonderful time.