If they mistreat you before anything actually takes shape, it’ll be worse in a relationship. Some people are severely underdeveloped emotionally and don’t even know why they behave as they do. I was like this when I was young. It’s taken decades of therapy and working on myself to be emotionally healthy. Find another.
this post was submitted on 15 Apr 2025
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There are many people in the world. You don't have to stay attached to this person if his behavior isn't something you like. And it is ok to wait for a person to come along that treats you the way you would like to be treated (you deserve to be treated well). Best of luck!
Run for the hills.
Someone you meet will never be a better person than when in a relationship.
This is one giant big red flag.
I am ND and have also dated some NT and had crushes on NT. Currently dating another ND.
Said shortly, no this is not how any sane human treats another sane human. Run. RUN! RUN FROM THAT PERSON!
The simplest answer is no. Making fun of someone because of neurodivergence is the action of a bully, not someone who is nervous and unsure of how to express their attraction.
I'm not in your shoes, and I only have a limited view into the situation. As an outside observer, I would recommend at the very least establishing boundaries against screaming and belittling your neurodivergence (i.e. Saying plainly that behavior is not OK), or cutting off all contact entirely if possible.
Things will likely only further degrade otherwise, and his behavior will only continue to be hurtful and manipulative.
The neurodivergent attract the neurodivergent like magnets; it's either a strong, irresistible bond or a complete, u equivocal rejection, never in between.
It sounds like they're undiagnosed.
GTFO and don't look back.
You should ask someone that knows you both. Asking internet strangers is like asking to a magic 8 ball.
How long do you think it will be until he's laying hands on you?