It's totally fine to talk in the store... Also why do you care about their kids. Just ask them to step aside if they're in your way. They're rude if they don't accommodate you then, but otherwise this seems fine??
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The point is they should get out of their way on their own instead of taking up the whole aisle.
It's the same as when you're walking in a busy city, don't stop to talk/figure out where you are/take photos right where you are, kindly move to the side of the sidewalk to allow others to pass. Being aware means you shouldn't need people to tell you when you're in the way, you should make the effort of taking two steps to get out of people's way before it's ever an issue.
This is a pretty bitter and antisocial meme. God forbid that people enjoy a normal social life and live in a community where they have the opportunity to encounter people they care about and connect with them. Do you really prefer an impersonal and anonymous public life?
You're totally right, that makes me feel so much better about having to wait idly for the next 19 minutes rather than get my shopping done. They're not in my way, they're connecting! I should try to connect with them, too!
Wow, they left. Why don't they want to connect anymore?
Such a weird take. Just say excuse me or I need to get through. Very easy. People aren't mind readers and they aren't purposely trying to make your life harder.
People aren’t mind readers and they aren’t purposely trying to make your life harder.
Oh, now I get it. They just don't even notice or acknowledge the existence of other people unless someone reminds them that such mythical beings exist.
Yeah, you're right, I'm much more sympathetic to them now. They're not mean, they're just amazingly self-centered and oblivious!
It's interesting that you see someone having a talk and not being a 100 % aware of their surroundings at that moment as "self-centred". Believing that everyone all the time should be aware of you and move out of the way for you in a hurry so you aren't inconvenienced for even a second also comes off as quite self-centred.
It's not just me. If I was literally the only other person in the store, sure, I could understand that, they thought they were alone, they weren't expecting to encounter anyone else.
How the fuck do you just stop being aware of an entire seething mass of other humans flowing around you?
Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that's on you. I think most people aren't some narcissistic machine invented to inflict maximum social damage to poor little 6'5" guys.
Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that’s on you.
Please suggest to me a better way to read an interaction in which someone in a very crowded public place just happens to forget that the possibility exists that another human might also need to get down that aisle. "Oopsie doodle! I forgot I was surrounded by a hundred people who would really rather get this chore done as fast as possible! Again! Silly me!"
Give me a charitable interpretation of that person who doesn't take even a split second to consider anyone else in their environment without having to be verbally admonished.
"Sometimes I get really excited when I see a friend and don't realize I'm blocking the way." That's how people think. No malice. I hope this helps you see another way to read a slight inconvenience instead of Ultra Gigachad Malice Narcissist Blocker 5000.
What mental disorder does this fall into?
This is totally bouncing off of me. How can a person, in a public space, surrounded at all times by other people, just forget they exist for any amount of time, for any reason? They're fucking everywhere. They're breathing, they're talking, their cart wheels are squeaking, the footsteps from their rubber-soled shoes are echoing off the hard tile floors, how do your senses just stop registering any of that?
I'm glad you are very considerate and have never made a mistake when excited about something before. Good for you friend.
I’m glad you are very considerate and have never made a mistake when excited about something before. Good for you friend.
I'm serious, though. How do you make that "mistake"? How do you get so excited that you completely tunnel-vision out the simultaneous existence of hundreds of people? That's absolutely in no way neurotypical.
For someone who expects constant awareness for other people you are incredibly un-aware and unfriendly about other people.
Yes, I am incredibly unfriendly when I'm trying to get my shit done. I want to be out of that place as fast as fucking possible. I don't want to linger, I don't want to chat, and I sure as fuck have never in my life been so distracted that a hundred other moving, talking people just vanished completely from my awareness. Is that some kind of ADHD thing? Some manifestation of executive dysfunction, like always being late and never letting anyone else talk in a conversation if they can't actively shout over you?
"Oh hey, my friend is in this aisle, and I don't see anybody else here, so no harm in talking."
Not their fault if after that they're too distracted talking to notice someone walk past the aisle, looking in to see that it's blocked, and choosing to go around instead of saying "excuse me."
Astounding number of fucked up basement dwellers on Lemmy I guess
+1 for the "Excuse Me" Gang here
Oh no! People socializing in public, better grab a gun.
Is it really so bad? Are you really that bitter and fed up? Don't you want somebody to love, you better find somebody to love.
Yes it is. Get the fuck out of the isle and talk. I shouldn't be held up because you Wana tell someone else about your boring ass kids.
"Excuse me I just need to get by" has worked for me every time and also usually makes them realize they can move to one side and keep chatting.
Or people could not be unaware jackasses and not stand in the fucking isle blocking other people. You think that would be a pretty simple concept but you people sure don't seem to understand it
Walk around if you're to shy to speak up, you socially handicapped looser. How can you live a single happy day if that's already enough to ruin one for you?
It's fine to meet people and talk in stores. I do get OP's annoyance in some people's lack of spatial awareness though, that they might be blocking access to something people wanna buy or even blocking the entire fucking aisle. Usually a polite 'excuse me' does the trick but some people actively pick a fight upon hearing that phrase.
Who the fuck is talking about guns? This is just about people who can't be bother to step to the side while having a discussion with their friends. I don't care if you want to have a 20 minute chat in the isle at the super market, but be aware of your surroundings, don't block the traffic and move to the side if you're in front of something that another shopper needs.
They absolutely can, you just have to say something like "sorry" or similar.