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Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as "whatever you say you fucking dumbass" and it pisses me off.

And ya, I'm aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let's see em ya jerks!!!

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Oh wow. I thought only I had an issue with this.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

It depends on the context

If I'm just looking for a confirmation that my message was received, and the plans need to additional modification, a thumbs up is sufficient.

If I ask something like "Wanna meet up at the bar after work today?" And get a thumbs up, that's sufficient. We know where we're going and when, no more discussion really needed.

If I ask "you free to grab a beer this weekend?" and I get a thumbs up, that's bullshit. When are you free to grab said beer? Where are we going for it? We have details that need to be hammered out.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I can respond with ๐Ÿ‘ and if people don't like it then next time I probably wouldn't respond to there texts with anything at all. The thumbs up IS me putting in the extra effort to acknowledge & respond to received messages. Also, it was my avatar on my previous college online profile.

Just try to remember that there is almost always more than one way to interpret a body of text even if it's a single character.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Not rude at all.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

No big deal at all

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Depends on context but generally no. I use it myself to either agree with or acknowledge messages if I don't have anything to add. I don't see why you should interpret it as rude if the person you're speaking to, or people in general, have stated they don't intend it to be rude.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I totally get you! Whenever I feel that it could be interpreted that way, I don't send the thumbs-up. I do use it though, but I try to be careful to avoid that misinterpretation.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Yes. It frequently comes across as passive aggressive or as if the person doesn't care.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Just make sure you don't use it, or fail to clarify and confirm the meaning of its use, in a business setting or you could be in some trouble.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

It depend on the context/group.

At work, no biggie, it just tells me that you acknowledge my message and currently have nothing useful to add.

With my friends, who usually heavily rely on emojis and "oldtimey smileys" (like xD or y.y)? Ya, unless you completely eminate happiness and friendship, I'm concerned about your mood / standing with me.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

The context will be more telling of if it's actually rude or not. There's a lot of chat software nowadays where you can "react" to a message with a thumbs up and people use it to acknowledge what was said.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Most of the time, yes.

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Definitely is a rude reply. Zero effort and sarcastic.

I think depending on your generation and language you speak it can have different meanings.

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Sounds like a you problem. An emoji is just that, context of usage defines it's meaning.

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