Listen, this is what you make our front page look like when you post the same thing to multiple communities. Please stop it. We see you.
this post was submitted on 27 Jan 2024
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I hate this about Lemmy. There's always a bunch of copies of each post fragmented across communities and servers.
Don’t participate in the gossip. Work less hard. Take really long shits, take a long time on tasks you know you can do faster. Don’t rush.
This is a weird problem to have
Spend a half-month considering, deeply, which path you would most-value having taken at the end of your life.
Due to an unconscious psychological-limitation, imagine your funeral at 1.5x your current age ( we apparently have a kind of "horizon" in our ability to understand our meaning beyond that ),
and imagine each significant variant, or compromise, and see how each makes you, in that future-condition/context feel.
Your answer is within you, same as for everyone.
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I'm an introvert, and these social vampires are tough. (They drain your energy while they recharge, sounds vampiric ). Figure out if you can get them to talk about anything else. Pets? Trains? Anything other than raw gossip. Maybe you'll find something you can tolerate and you can be their k-drama buddy (insert your choice of topic here).
I’m not sure I want to do my job, I don’t see what would I gain from it.
Sounds like you've thought it through. I don't see anything wrong with this approach if you don't.
If there were benefits to doing otherwise, then that would be a whole different thing. Maybe if you do something impressive in the process of working and your boss sees that, you might be more likely to get a raise or promotion, for instance. But if that's not how your particular workplace works (and it's definitely true that at some workplaces, socializing is rewarded more than work; also, some places reward getting shit done by giving you more shit to do, which you may not appreciate), then do whatever's best for you.
Remember: your boss/employer is not your friend. They're always taking the most advantage of you that they can. Fuck 'em. Just try not to screw over any of your peers or anyone below you in the (management, experience, or social) hierarchy if you can help it at all. But don't feel bad if your employer gives you no choice but to fuck over your peers or underlings.