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I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I must be ancient here, because nobody has claimed this is like September 1993 all over again...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eternal_September

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I apologize if these include me.

As we in the US loom towards the election I am getting more and more raw and worried about it. And with that my fear brings out screechy obscene me. That is one of my fear responses that I lose the handle on a lot.

So please forgive me. I will try to avoid political threads as we ramp up to either the end of American democracy or the continuing gerontocratic oligarchic republic.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

I think there are more bummer world events happening like the Israel Hamas war and bummer late stage capitalism in general which leads to more inflammatory and charged discourse, compared to just after the Reddit exodus when we were united against Reddit.

Lemmy in general isn’t different from other social media in that it isn’t great for political discourse. Without the human connection there is less incentive to consider the experience and viewpoints of others when you can just downvote and read a hundred that agree with you

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yes! I've been seeing a lot of toxic comments and posts lately. It's kinda turning into a niche hyper toxic reddit.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

many, if not most of the popular/highly-trafficked communities are basically echo chambers now, anyone who disagrees with whatever the cookie-cutter general consensus of the day is becomes a hate magnet.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

I honestly don't feel much has changed. There was perhaps a bit of a "new" feeling in the start and some excitement about the project, but I don't think people have gotten more aggressive or anything.

But I think all this probably depends what circles you hang out in. Probably also depends on what instances you federate with.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (11 children)

I feel like a very high percentage of posts and comments here are just "Americans bad." And as an American, even though the things they are complaining about don't apply to me specifically, it makes me feel very unwelcome.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I feel like that’s kind of the case for a lot of things here. God forbid you find anything remotely positive about the wrong brand of phone, operating system or web browser. You’re unwelcome.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (16 children)

I just started a few days ago and already had to deal with a transphobic troll. Online is so toxic that I'm afraid eventually all social media platforms end up on trolls radar and they seek to destroy them. It's a shame because they ruin social media for everyone including themselves.

So many people lack a basic sense decency that they actually think it's ok to cause harm to other people simply for their own amusement. It's usually straight white american males too.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I haven't noticed, but some people say they are feeling political tensions, and...

The year 2024 is notable for the large number of elections, with 7 of world's 10 most populous nations (Bangladesh, India, United States, Indonesia, Pakistan, Russia, Mexico) voting; countries that are home to nearly half of the world's people will hold elections in 2024.

From the Wikipedia complete list.

I guess everyone is just a little worried about national and international elections.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (3 children)

A lot of people are having a hard time right now. Try to be the change you want to see and react kindly and rationally would be my advice.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I FART IN YOUR GENERAL DIRECTION!

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

100%. Seems like people are just itching to fight now and taking comments out of context constantly. They're just throwing out insults instead of engaging or asking for clarification. Dunno what happened.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor.

Careful. I'll correct my neighbour's spelling, too . :-)

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's definitely gotten worse, especially the political circlejerk, jeez.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Yeah, definitely the vibe has changed. It's kind of sad.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Vibe has changed but it's because of more users. The original users picked Lemmy because they were tired of reddit, so they were naturally nice people that didn't vibe with the shit that was going on at reddit. They wanted something else. We wanted something else.

That's why we shouldn't wish for exponential growth. This place will lose its charm quickly if we end up arguing with the trolls.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Sorry guys, I got mad

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (24 children)

Comming from Reddit, I find it really peaceful, but IDK how it was before. Except for the people at Hexbear who bullied me for liking South Park. The socalled "dirtbag left" is basically the proudboys pretending to be far-left.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Idk why, but I feel like I'm starting to associate this kind of behavior with people who used to be on Reddit and moved over here when all the third party apps got Thanos snapped.

I first got here around July 2023, and it was pretty cool. Nowadays it's probably a little less cool.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I don't mind disagreeing and even bickering a bit, but when somebody gets extra or pointedly disengenuous I just block em. IDGAF. 🀷

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (5 children)

You mean comments like this one?

https://feddit.nl/comment/6215624

Yeah, it's getting worse.

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