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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

My sister gifted me the third book of a fantasy trilogy series once.
I never read or got the first two books.

Also, when I was little, my grandma (who hated me with passion) bought me a pink bike just to piss me off, because she thought a boy wouldn't ever like that color. I rode that bike until I was too tall to use it and every time she saw me enjoying that thing she was furious. :)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 hours ago

Too small clothes so I'd be excited to go on a diet and lose weight... as an already very sick underweight teen with an eating disorder who wasn't a wize zero "but you'll get there"

Paulo Cohelo's garbage books to "help me with my constant depression that keeps bringing everyone down and you like books, no?"

Stuffed animal toy thay was first intended for a baby shower but the mom didn't want it so "why should it go to waste if you can have it as a birthday present"

Plastic surgery offering as a sweet sixteen present "so you can feel beautiful"

Professional acne treatment (Accutane) as a birthday present because "Oh you poor thing need it"

A used and stained old yellow blouse "because it will make you look happier" I hate yellow.

And the list goes on lol. That was growing up and it is one of the many reasons why I am no contact with all of those people.

Now as an independent adult in a stable loving relaionship surrounded by nice genuine friends, I actually get very thoughtful and beautiful gifts. Some expensive, some with no monetary cost.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago

Motivational calendar...

Thanks mom

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 hours ago

One time my roommate gave me a welding starter set cuz he wanted to learn how to weld LOL.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 hours ago

Gift certificate to a tanning salon when I was a Goth kid.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

My mom's boyfriend got me this huge present that just fit under the tree, the gift was pretty heavy. I racked my brain trying to figure out what it was, had no idea. Got to be honest i was a little hyped up to open this thing, even though my opinion of the boyfriend was average

Christmas day I finally get to find out what it is. open the box and it was a Microwave; a second hand microwave. He had replaced his, wasn't even a good microwave (5 minutes to boil a cup of water) Mom already had a microwave and i was 14 years old.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

A goddamned bible. What the fuck am I going to do with that?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Just leave it in a random hotel room drawerβ€”seems to be where most of them end up eventually. /s

[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 hours ago

A tri-fold wallet. It was a good wallet, and I appreciated the gesture. It's just that I HATE tri-fold wallets.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago

A broken propeller toy wrapped in a ripped up plastic grocery bag.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (3 children)

About 20 years ago

I went to my family Christmas with my then-partner. I got a Grinch onesie from my family

We then attended my partner's family Christmas where basically the entire living room was stuffed with presents for the kids (my partner and their siblings). My then-partner complained about how the siblings all got more $$ worth of presents. I pointed out that I got a pair of pjs for Christmas. The reply: "it's not about the dollar amount, it's just they got more than me" (paraphrased)

I hated that present. A fucking onesie? It was such a disappointing present, and for a long time I used it as an example for questions just like this

I kept it and wore it. Eventually I lost the bitterness and started to cherish it even. Which is why I still wear it regularly this time of year! It's quite warm.. plus, it has pockets!

Grinch tax:

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

On the behalf of Lemmy. We appreciate you paying the Grinch tax.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago

They say once you go Grinch you'll never go back.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 hours ago

That's a cool onesie

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago

Rum flavoured spirit drink.. Twice.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Not me, but my wife.

She receives an envelope from her grandmother, oh cool, money!
She opened it and it was empty. Okay, no fuss she probably forgot to fill one when making all of them for the family. A week later, she told her grandma it was empty. Her grandma replied "No! There's no way it was empty, your mistaken." This is par for the course. She ignores my wife all the time and talks down to her.

So an empty envelope is the worst I've seen.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 hours ago

Reminds me that my aunt gave me 100$ in a box but claimed I threw it out…

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 hours ago

A box of Mario fruit snacks when I was a kid.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 12 hours ago

I had an aunt and uncle who, when I was a kid maybe 12, were not well off. They got my brother and I each this toyset that was like make pretend welding. It had a hand tool that, if I remember, let you weld with this soft plastic to make things with the parts in the kit.

It also had a chamber near the nozzle that spun and contained something that made a bunch of sparks.

Well... The thing kept zapping and burning me. Kinda hurt. So, being 12, I complained about it.

And of course, I was an ingrate for not liking the toy they could afford instead of a Lego set or something. The worst of it was I got what my parents meant, my aunt and uncle were kind of ashamed. But it burned me.

Hell I thought it was really cool, and even said so, but I couldn't keep playing with it due to, you know, my hand being red and kinda cut up.

Just bad times all around.

And no, no one suggested put a glove on, and it did not come with one.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I was deployed and got a box from my home unit that was basically just trash. I think it was supposed to be funny, but it was just a lot of scrap paper thrown into a box. Nothing written on them that was for me. Nothing to signal anything. Just a big box of trash that could have been nothing more than the recycling bin upended into it.

That was pretty heartbreaking.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Did you ever talk about it with them? Definitely sounds like an inconsiderate joke. Flabbergasting that they managed to follow through enough to get it posted to you.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 13 hours ago

Someone sent me what they referred to as a self-help DVD that was just some motivational speaker type of person invalidating my issues. A virus in the DVD also temporarily destroyed my friend's DVD player in the process of playing it.

[–] [email protected] 43 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Oh fuck i have a long history of this...

My parents got me a cheap set of tools, pliers, screw drivers, level and a wood burner with no wood to burn at 10. My brother got a gameboy SP and PokΓ©mon.

Two years later I got an electric shaver and Cologne. I didn't start growing facial hair until 17 and didn't have enough to need more than one pass with a razor until 26. Still have the Cologne, it's not awful but it's also not a smell that works for me.

14 I got a store made cake and $20. I can't eat the cake, the frosting makes my face hurt and that's been a problem since I was 5 so they know I can't eat the cake.

Basically, I didn't get a present for me until I met my wife at 30.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 hours ago

damn, that sounds like you were part of a case study in your childhood. Is there a difference with how your brother turned out and yourself? Interested to know if you picked up skills like DIY and stuff while your brother isn't capable of those things.

[–] [email protected] 57 points 16 hours ago (3 children)

I received a framed picture of my parents, from my parents. They said it was because I didn't have a picture of them hung up in my house.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

...I dunno, I actually think it's kinda sweet. Something bonus might've been nice though haha.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 hours ago

Did you hang it up?

[–] [email protected] 42 points 15 hours ago

That's kind of hilarious. πŸ˜†

[–] [email protected] 54 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

At the call center I worked at, our Christmas bonus was a dress shirt with the company logo on it.

My wife wears it when she dyes her hair.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

No jelly of the month?

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