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People who haven't really resumed socializing at levels they used to, people who lost the capacity to regulate during interpersonal interactions, people who lost trust in others... I encounter lots of partial returners out there

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My socializing during the pandemic was more or less the same as before or after the pandemic. I am very sensitive to sound, a introvert, a huge nerd and don't care for most of the topics "normal" people talk about like sport. I have no reason to go outside, I don't like to be at places with many people and I don't any knowledge in topic that can be used for smalltalk.

Due to this the biggest part of my social bubble is located all over the world and we communicate purely online. It was called lockdown but for me it was just a normal Tuesday.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I wouldn't necessarily blame your niche interests or anything else like that. There's lots of people this applies to who just forgot how to socialize. I would put myself in that category. I like sports and many other popular things, and I used to be reasonably easy to talk to but ever since covid I'm considerably more awkward in social situations.

Someone I haven't seen in two years will ask what I've been up to and my mind just goes blank. It's not that I've been sitting at home doing nothing the whole time but for some reason none of the things I could talk about come to me in the moment. It's a strange thing to feel yourself being socially inept in a way that you didn't used to be. I've gotten better but it's still weird a lot of the time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is exactly the type of thing I was reflecting on. Have you also found yourself having a lower tolerance for stressors?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I am quite similar and it turns out I'm on the autistic spectrum. I was excited to discover this as it explained sooo much about myself. Just my 2 cents

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago

Lockdown was a blast! I was paid to do what I always wanted; stay home and do whatever I felt like and not worry about other people.

Now that it's over, I haven't been able to keep a steady job. I've lost all the support I built up for myself in social situations.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Maybe if we smushed the two together and made up a word? Like hikicovidomori

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Maybe there is a German word for it. Or that could make one up

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

It's all the doing of Nihon Hikikomori Kyokai..!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

Oh hey it's me

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

In my particular case, it is called "working parent"

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

Yeah lockdown was living my best life. At least I managed to get a fully remote job with a small company several states away.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (3 children)

No.....he means the ones just staying at home. Not the ones covid killed.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Avari.

The unwilling elves who refused the great journey!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Hermits

I feel like the weird one out because lockdown was absolute hell for me. I need my community and my people. I go crazy being stuck inside a small apartment with nothing to do. I'm not fully an extrovert, I do need my alone time, but I also need to be with people I love.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I can tell that I get a little weird if I'm alone too long. And the time it takes is shorter since covid. I'm assuming from too much time alone during the peak period

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

We do. It's called being Smart.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Yeah. That's me. Or anyone I know, really. Sure cities are back to pre-pandemic chaos, but those are other people.

I choose to work from the office on most days. I use public transit. I go to the gym. I'm not locked in, but ...

  • after-work drinks
  • meetups
  • catch up with a friend at the pub
  • date night
  • clubs
  • partys

That's a distant past. And i don't miss it, really.

Ok, I do miss socializing, the good parts: Crack some jokes, have some small-talk, feel part oof a group of friends.

But i don't miss it enough to endure that bad parts: Forcing oneselves into conversations with strangers, "networking", drinking a beer alone in a corner of some event, going out to bar where over your overpriced drink you'll accept that you'd rather be in your living room. Bars and night clubs are a weird concept (unless you are in your twenties and really enjoy the scene): You realistically only talk the person you came with, but they can't hear what your are saying since it's loud and crowded. There may be music, but unless you came to dance, you probably have a Spotify play list you'll enjoy more. In better quality.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

I fucking loved it. 😁

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Me. I'm people.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Where do you encounter these people that haven't returned from isolation?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago

You don't. That's the point.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Not really isolating is on zoom. Just preferring to be where they cannot smell you. I presume.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

How about: isolastionists?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Informed? Did the infection rates start dropping lately?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Extraintroverts?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Overintroverts?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Petroverts?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 day ago

Pandainfuls

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