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I would absolutely have a blast being a full time stay-at-home Dad. We would hit every Park, library, zoo, and aquarium within a days drive.
Then during the summer, I'd pass their kids to their grandparents house so my wife and I could find a place to SCUBA for 2 weeks straight.
Nothing! I'm super-serious, and I plan on doing exactly that for the following 6 months (quit my job, taking a break to address burnout and reorient): nothing.
By that, I mean I'll allow myself to get as much sleep as I humanly can, try to feed myself healthier food (and more regularly), develop my hobbies (mini painting, playing the bass, sketching, writing), re-establish a semblance of a social life by exploring the city and its options, spending more time with friends... Pretty much just living life. No goals, no quotas, no deadlines, no performance metrics, no side-hustle, no Workβ’.
I plan on doing exactly that for the following 6 months (quit my job, taking a break to address burnout and reorient): nothing.
I wouldn't call adressing a burnout a Sabbatical but a sick leave, a Sabbatical is choosing to take time off work for a project, not needing to take time off work for your mental health
Sorry that you're there (And use the health issue as an explanation for the hole in your CV if they ask)
Agreed, expressed it incorrectly, the burnout is nowhere near the main reason for my taking time off. I needed to take a break from Adult Stuff. I mean, last time I did anything even remotely resembling a vacation/holiday was in 2014, now I'm taking my time.
Also, thank you so much for your kind words! Honestly, burnouts are just part of the routine at this point, I'll be back on my feet in two-three months tops!
...get as much sleep as I humanly can, try to feed myself healthier food (and more regularly), develop my hobbies (mini painting, playing the bass, sketching, writing), re-establish a semblance of a social life by exploring the city and its options, spending more time with friends... Pretty much just living life.
That's not nothing!
Thoroughly agreed, that's what I call everything not viewed as immediately societally productive. More of a sarcastic reversal of the main complaint I've received throughout my life while just living it.
I did the same, except 'nothing' was 'play with my kid' and several years later it still registers as a very happy time, even though I should have been worrying about work, or lack thereof.
(I was going to the trampoline park 2-3 times a week with a toddler, great times.)
This is what life should be like in a sane world. Work should never take up as much of our cognitive bandwidth as it does now.
I did that when i got laid off in January. Can recommend. Mental reset helps. Having no job helps with refocusing on whats really important, like own mental wellbeing, family and friends. Good times, tho i got pretty stressed out because searching for new job took a while, despite everyone else in IT got one in 15mins it seemed at the moment
This is essentially what I did when I was laid off August last year. And it did take about that long to really be free of all the stress I'd racked up over the years in retail and other public customer-facing roles.
It really does take a while... Had a 9-month breakdown during the Pandemic, that one was exclusively for mental health care. I literally locked myself in my apartment and did nothing but eat, sleep, play vidya, get high, and have weekly therapy sessions for the entire duration.
It took 8 months to stop being anxious about not being stressed out. Used to wake up every morning with that sharp fear that I'd missed my daily meetings, then it would slowly turn into an "oh, shit, I'm not being Productive" jumble of self-loathing and panic.
That sounds beautiful.
Hey, I actually did this! It was the best time of my life.
My aim was to migrate to south america, specialize in my career and get in/stay in shape.
I spent my days going to the gym, learning spanish, doing impromptu streams on twitch (I found a little community in my preperations to quit my job) , and I did travel to the country I wanted to migrate to and to NY to see a band that rarely plays live, visit my family in a different country and to visit my bud that lived in scandinavia.
I spent a month with my family preparing a portfolio.
I saved money during my career, about $16k over several years,and figured, if time is money, money is time.
I'm happy to answer any questions.
What country was it? Are you still there?
Uruguay, still there.
Did you have a job there or a clue ? Or you went to search for it ?
No job, no clue. At the start the perspective of some others and me were that it felt like I just fell out of the sky and tried to integrate into society.
I figured I'd either do immersion learning for spanish, or succeed and set up my life here.
The job came fairly easily, one of the companies from my first wave of applications accepted me.
What kind of job is it?
I'd probably start designing and building a rolling ball clock/ sculpture, then hit some sort of obstacle and switch to making a self recirculating eddy current tube, get frustrated and try to design and build an electronically commutated counter rotating propeller driver, get frustrated and try to build a garage sized 3d printer, get frustrated and try to build a delayed action door closer get frustrated and try to build a co-planar compound cycloidal reducer, get frustrated and then forget my wife's anniversary until 4pm the day before.
My question to anyone able to answer this: how can you afford to take a sabbatical period??? I canβt even afford to take a weeks vacation. It would wreck me financially not receiving pay for a whole week. Let alone a year??? Whatβs going on in this thread?
There are some platforms like World Packers where you receive free food and a bed for helping out in places. But I guess that still doesn't cover travel, insurance, debt, and any other long term payments you might have to make
step 1 : have a career
step 2 : don't spend that much money, building up savings
step 3 : time is money, therefore, money is time.
step 4 : be very, very frugal during your time with no work. I ate a lot of protein powder, eggs and pasta
Iβve been saving 30-40% of my salary each month for years, it helps not going outside because you donβt like people and watching movies and playing video games. And eating ramen
Read mrmoneymustache.com.
Go back to Japan.
Procrastinate for eleven months, panic at the last minute, ask for a do over, fail, then try to learn Rust in 3 days and program a roguelike.
are you me from other timeline?
Sleep, play with my cats, hang out with my wife, organize all my shit, prune my emails and pictures, finish my homelab and the other tech projects I have going on, go to Disney a bunch.
That but instead of Disney, I would take time to learn a new skill and horn the one I have learned before.
I'd hike the Appalachian Trail.
I'd do the Sentiero Italia (Grand Italian Trail)
Wow that must be so cool to do ! Both projects are really nice !
Our dream (my SO and me) is to ride our motorcycles to Japan (from Central Europe). At this time the northern route is politically difficult. The southern route has always been difficult but would be the better option at this time, I think. We even discussed ideas of plans. She could take a half year off, for me it would be more difficult. But the funds would be the biggest issue. So plan B is to rent motorcycles for a week or two, next time we're in Japan.
I hope you'll be able to do it someday. It's a really nice project
Visit Japan, South Korea, and certain EU countries Iβve never been to yet. Also probably spend 2 weeks back in my home country to visit immediate family and some friends.
I would spend my year trying to turn my side business into my actual business then I couldn't quite my job and work for myself doing what I do now but for more money
Spend time with my kids and play video games while theyβre at school
Do a total renovation of my flat
I just quit yesterday with nothing else lined up. Gonna take a WHOLE MONTH for healing (isn't it ridiculous how ridiculous that feels?) and then figure out my next move. I wanna build an app or something.
Bike trip on the Panericana from Punta Arenas to whatever is the northern most city in Alaska. Or if I have less time but cash to burn, do it in an ultra-light (A bit like Blyth Cape-town Cape North expedition in the 90's http://www.trike-expeditions.com/CapeToCape/capetocape.html )
21,000 km, that's a trip ! Very cool ! I didn't know this trail ! Thanks
Probably a bikini inspector at my favourite beach... Seriously though the Bibbulmun Track.
Technically not a sabbatical, but I saved up a bunch of money, quit my job, and have been studying abroad in Japan.
I can recommend a big stupid project where it's not a big deal if you fail.
Until recently, for me that would've meant "run Windows programs on Android," mashing together Wine and e.g. Unicorn Engine... but now there's like six different "userland emulators" vying for preference. FEX-emu, Box86, others with even sillier names.
I did manage a bespoke 8-bit FPS. That only took about two months. And then I've been idly tweaking it over the last two years. Splitscreen multiplayer, as a joke, was maybe not the best idea.
What'd take both time and space is some extremely low-end VR. I am convinced that Quest-ish headsets could cost, like, fifty bucks. The big players keep iterating clever hacks from a decade ago. Solving those problem, instead of avoiding those problems. Light should be collimated by default, which means a point source, which is any single LED. Rendering has to be detached from software performance, which means projecting the nearby world to e.g. floating dots instead of directly making a flat image. Inside-out tracking is at least the right idea, but it doesn't have to be especially good in order to ground an inertial estimate.
Buy a minivan, remove back seats. Add a bed and a battery bank, a small travel fridge and a hob for cooking then start camping at the nearest national parks. Refine my load out and start venturing farther and farther out.
I did have a one year sabbatical. I hiked and volunteered on farms mostly. I worked at a animal refuge farm in India and a goat farm in Montana. I hiked in the Himalayas, Andes, Rockies, and Tetons. I hiked in Canyon, Texas and at Glacier too. I headed south for winter and explored the civic side of the civil war and the civil rights movement, hoping to learn something that would help me understand what was happening in our country. I toured Little Rock High, Fort Sumter, White Haven and Jackson's Barracks. I read Lincoln's speeches. I learned to cross country ski and visited my mom a lot. I went to Virginia with my family and took a detour to DC with my sister while we were there.
I'm back to working now. I moved to live near the mountains so I can hike and I volunteer on an animal refuge farm every week. My mom passed not too long after. I am forever grateful for that experience.
A full year of multi month hikes across the world. I want to see it all and meet new people.
depends. If i somehow had money id spend it in a walkable beachside town. If i had the same finances as now id sit at home and relax cuz thats free lol.