Asklemmy

My SO and I have been together for around 15 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, like everyone else, but I think we’re in a really strong place for the last year or so. I’ve had to face up to my imperfections and work to change them. But some of our problems were caused by my now diagnosed ADHD. (Medium severity inattentive type)

And she just rolled with it, she has accommodated my newly discovered needs like it’s nothing. She is compassionate and understanding of my preference to write down timelines so I can see the whole picture. She is happy to take housework off my plate that I’m simply not built to do well.

Holy fuck I love this woman.

Mine is an odd one, she let the breakup be amicable. It’s never easy to breakup, but our relationship turned into a LDR with a 5 hour time difference. Long distance relationships are never easy but we were giving it an honest shot. Eventually we both knew it was time, but neither of us wanted it to end. When the idea was floated that this could be coming to an end she insisted that we don’t blame ourselves but rather the circumstances. Our last date was both of us updating each other’s dating profiles.

We’re still friends, we still talk, I was at her wedding a few years ago, and the man she’s with is an amazing man, I wish them the best. It was an issue of circumstance, not compatibility, and of all the relationships I’ve been in that is the only one that I do not blame either myself, or my partner for the breakup.

This question made me come to a weird realization that I dont appreciate when people do or say nice things to me. I tried to think of something and I know that she has done plenty of nice things and said nice things but nothing stands out.

Then I thought about how I'd react if she did something nice for me and I realized I get annoyed and dislike it. I can handle small gifts but I don't like people doing things for me or helping me and I ignore compliments because I already feel comfortable with myself so I don't feel like I dont need them.

Im not even sure how to appreciate a gesture beyond just saying thankyou as a formality and trying to figure out how to pay them back.

he looked past the asocial behavior caused by autism; the dirt poor immigrant background and sensibilities; and the entitled liberal world view to date and marry a fat, hairy, older, and poor man anyways and that was no small thing for a solidly middle class, cultured, and mainstreamly beautiful man to do in the gay world; he was a living, breathing unicorn.

if i had my choice he would still be here by my side; but he was deported since i couldn't sponsor him for citizenship due to doma

Laughed at the memes I send her.
Forwards some of them to her coworkers.

1. When she takes pictures of me when I'm not looking and genuinely cherishes them no matter how weird I look

2. She said she wouldn't mind living in my country, which is something very heartfelt to me considering we both have close relationships with our parents and live across the globe right now. It's a big commitment and she's willing to make it for me.

I'm also willing to do the same for her :]

They told me they've always kept a folder to save all the things I've sent them over the past 2 years, including all of my art, which means a ton to me

Love my kitties as much as I do. Though she came to that disadvantaged because they are the cutest!

He is nice to me always, but like the other response here, picking up the housework that I am so shit at doing and getting us the biweekly cleaning so we can do other stuff, instead of complaining (I do pull my weight in other ways) has been so wonderful. Really a life improvement.