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[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm going to have anger outbursts and explosive behaviour because of the damn vertical text spacing in this

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

You

Mean you

Don't norm-

Ally read

Something like

This?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

I'm in this picture and I don't like it

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

where is the freeze gang at

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Ok so when I'm stressed I'm a workaholic hyperactive overwhelmed people pleaser who will slam doors, self harm, get numb, and shut down.

Not even kidding.

Really though I think it goes like this as I progress from stressed out to the breaking point. I think my M.O. is Fawn > Flight > Freeze > Fight. When I'm pushed to a certain point I explode in anger, usually directed at inanimate objects and self. I've been living in Fawn for several years now

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Obviously not a "pick one" kind of situation. Everyone I know does a little of all of these categories, and lots of two or three.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

Seems like there's one or more categories missing here... how does the Mister Rogers "look for the helpers" phrase fit in? The people who, in the face of trauma, seek to assist rather than avoid?

All four of these categories are negative, I don't see any positive response to trauma.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

I think the intent is to show untrained instinctual responses, not learned responses, I'm not sure though some of this chart I find odd, still parsing it to figure out what

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Trauma is negative by definition. It isn't just a bad thing that you experience, it is an injury you receive as a consequence. Maybe you can find positive aspects of breaking a leg -- I get to work on my novel! -- but the injury is purely negative.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 3 months ago (2 children)

The injury is negative, how we react to it doesn't have to be. ;)

Source:

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Yes. The injury is the trauma. It is negative. This post is about trauma. How we react to that trauma is a different thing. It can be positive or negative towards the goal of healing the trauma. But that's not what this post is about. These are the ways that psychological injury manifest, not how people react to those injuries.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Socks with sandals is certainly traumatic.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Oh, not a sock. That's a giant bandage. Sandal is the only thing that fits over it. :(

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Yeah, a lot of these "cool guides" are just some BS that someone on reddit came up with.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

One of each please

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Fun fact, you can have more than one!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago

Bold of you to assume anyone has a sense of self.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I swear a new F word gets added to that list every time I see it.

So far I've seen friend, flock, flop, flail, funster, fib...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Enter three or four of those on Google and the rest will pop everywhere in different lengths and combinations.