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[serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Nobody tells me what I'm going to do or where I will be going and when that happens

I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Once another person and I have resolved or gained closure on a matter, or at least attempted as much, I refuse to rehear or rehash the case for any purpose whatsoever except for positive and enjoyable purposes like nostalgia or gentle + affectionate teasing (where consent is mutually preestablished)

We're both able to hopefully learn from it to be more successful, but I will not allow it to be thrown in my face and I will do my utmost to comport with that myself, while maintaining grace for each other to constructively remind each other about it should it arise again in a different context

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