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Shed your shame of pornography, unless that's your kink.
Almost everybody bates, and those who don't for reasons of indignation, I'm not hating on the genuine asexuals or people with health issues that inhibit self-pleasure, are usually the pent up, "only one right way to live" A types I don't enjoy the company of or have any respect for anyway.
It's been how many generations? The puritans that came here to escape living among cool Europeans to self flagellate are beyond dust. Prudes suck. Make lust not greed.
Small tip: don't say "genuine asexuals" as if the ones that do masturbate aren't really asexuals. All asexuals are just as genuine and valid, don't gatekeep.
Fair, though I more meant the people who are effective asexuals because they were taught to be ashamed of sexuality in general and deny any sexual desire they have with vigorous effort to feel "pure."
That's a whole lot different than someone who just doesn't really have those impulses. The former is an act and they have my pity because of how such people are usually raised/abused to be in a constant state of conflict and hatred of their own impulses, the latter is a completely valid identity.
The correct term for that is sex-averse asexual.
Since we're correcting terminology, I'd stray away from saying "correct" term and tend more towards "currently accepted" term.
But, in all honesty, the term doesn't matter as long as it's understood and isn't used maliciously.
I think you might have overstated the harm of the "euphemism treadmill". Where does that term come from? I see a lot of problems with it. I'm certain that the coinage of that term cannot be the end of the discussion, but you seem content to hang your hat on it.
Let me share one piece of wisdom (from Kierkegaard!) that has been kind of a tragic comfort that can help guide the tortures of ethical behavior: we are always in the wrong.