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Context, I'm 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.

As I've aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)

But when I'm 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I had the hots for women in their 40s when I was a teenager ยฏ\_(ใƒ„)_/ยฏ

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (3 children)

most hopefully they weren't irresponsible enough to date a teen, that'd be just as yuck no matter the gender

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Oh I was far too awkward to get involved in anything like that, along with its inappropriateness.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

OMG. Yuck? as in.... disgusting? like sushi?

[โ€“] [email protected] -2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I understand where you're coming from, but you're expressing your taste and values in a very dismissive way

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

i dont get how calling someone that age dating a teen 'yuck' is dismissive lol

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

They're both consenting adults, and it's just sex.

It's yuck in the same way a teen might say old people (30+ yos) having sex are yuck.

But there's nothing inherently wrong about it, your views are just judgemental. May also just be a cultural thing to be fair, or as societies attitude towards sex become more open, older views may still just be very conservative.

[โ€“] [email protected] -5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's not what you said, you don't get to lecture me by pretending you said something else.

Anything illegal deserves more yuck than I can count, but expressing your personal taste towards things that are legal and socially accepted (while frown upon) by dismissing a behaviour that you personslly disagree with is... dismissive.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

huh? it is literally exactly for word what i said, so what are you talking about??

"most hopefully they weren't irresponsible enough to date a teen, that'd be just as yuck no matter the gender"

also, how am i lecturing you?? i dont even know you or anything about you. you replied to me calling my opinion dismissive and i disagreed, point out the lecturing. and anyway, why is there an issue with how i choose to express my opinion on something controversial, or anything in that matter? you find it dismissive that i think middle aged people dating legal teenagers is gross, okay, why should i care that how i expressed it is apparently dismissive??