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is there a limit to the point that i will find women attractive? (aussie.zone)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Context, I'm 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.

As I've aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)

But when I'm 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 11 months ago (2 children)

That's what I hear happens. I'm sure the effect must stop working at some point, but so far I'm cruising.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Yeah i appreciate that women my age stay attractive.

I wonder what is the driving factor though.

Familiarity with the look, perhaps.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 11 months ago

I think it's rather similar level of maturity and points of interest. Like I may find college students physically attractive, but there's quite a maturity gap between students and people who have been working full time for a couple of years that can be off-putting to me.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

Self-conditioning.

You like people you can have a meaningful interactions with, you are more likely to find sexual partners in that group, you fantasize about current or prospective partners, you end up building an attractiveness pattern that matches a certain age group.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Got to be an interaction with our wiring and social constructs. We're mainly wired to get along with our tribe, after all. Makes sense for sexual preferences to naturally hew to social mores.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

“That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.”