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Described yourself in a paragraph (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 2 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I recently meet someone and was going to ask them to describe themselves in a paragraph. I realized I wasn’t able to do it myself. I also wasn’t sure how they would react. I thought I would ask here first and see how you folks react.

I’ll define paragraph as three to four sentences.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That sounds horribly transactional. Like you're asking people to apply for a job as your friend.

That may just be me, but I wouldn't react well if someone approached conversation like a job interview.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As stated fair point. Again, coming to the collective to gather data helps us be better people. Didn’t actually ask, and feedback suggests don’t do it… as such I won’t.

Thanks for responding, appreciated!!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's an interesting idea. I think it's just the phrasing. You're giving someone, socially and conversationally, an instruction. That's bound to illicit a knee jerk "you're not the boss of me!" reaction, mentally if not verbally.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

I can absolutely see that as a way this question could be interpreted. It felt like a “bright idea” at the time but, not so much now. My plan is to just keep letting things play out as they have been.