this post was submitted on 18 May 2025
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The "infidelities are always there" part sounds like a cope. I'm not a great authority on relationships or marriage as I've mostly opted for single life but I have spent a lot of time around the various aspects of substance abuse and the way you describe this discussion sounds eerily similar to people with substance-use issues saying "everybody drinks" or "everybody uses drug x." It might be true of the people they surround themselves with but it's not representative of the broader population as a whole...
-On a seperate note you're really making me want to attend my 20th reunion next year. /s
-Lastly I just want to clarify that i'm interpreting the term "cheating" to being different than a poly/open-relationship. As I understand there's an element of deception or lack of communication when it comes to "cheating."