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My eyes betray my feelings, do you know techniques to mitigate that? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hi all,

I'm a pretty chill person in my actions but quite sensible in the 'inside'.

Sometimes I run into issues with my feelings which can be very apparent in my eyes / gaze. It's fine most of the time but I recently had a not-so-confortable-situation where i wished I could keep a neutral gaze in front of a stranger to avoid making things more complicated.

Do you know any technique / tips to keep a friendly / neutral posture, even when someone is exhausting you or making you angry?

Thanks!

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 days ago

There's a reason so many poker players wear sunglasses.

Anyway, try to preempt your emotional reaction. There's always many different flavors of reactions we can have to something really negative, which normally depends heavily on mood. By default, this all just runs unconsciously, but it doesn't have to. Of the many potential options, like anger, sadness, condescending disdain, arrogant bemusement or surprise, you can try to consciously pick one and channel your feelings towards it instead of just letting your feelings run wild.

Or you can just practice a proper poker face, but that can be really hard. Doable though, just takes a lot of practice. Playing poker would be an effective way to get that practice.