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About a year. It was a really toxic relationship. It started when I was 20 and my ex was about 26. I was enamored of them and they took advantage of this to reel me in, then manipulate me.
Warning: mildly entertaining breakup story follows.
We actually split up because we were fighting about living together. We had been together for about four years. They had never moved out of their parent's place so, at almost 30, had no experience with housing or self sufficiency. They wanted to find an upscale house being let for about the price of a 1 bedroom apartment. Seriously, I'm not exaggerating. After three months of looking with no housing miracles in sight, I tried to impress upon them that what they wanted wasn't going to happen. They got very upset. When I asked them to come over so we could discuss, they did - and broke it off.
20 years later, I can recognize what a massive favor they did for me. To be fair, I was also crazier than a sack of cats, but who in their early twenties isn't? I hit therapy hard and got myself straightened out. Highly recommended.