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Do some guys start humming/making noise around women to not frighten them? (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Might sound silly, but every once in a while, random guys around me (pretty short, female) start humming/making random noises when they get near me, usually when I'm alone. Imagine me standing at a red traffic light at night or something. It's never women. Sometimes, it's some creep trying to get my attention, though that's usually kinda obvious.

But I also had it happen with guys who didn't seem like they wanted anything. I lowkey suspect that some might make noises so that I'm not caught off guard or something?

Any men on here who do this? Or am I just tripping?

Edit to summarize: So, a few guys apparently do it on purpose, while others think they might do it subconsciously. Some do it around women, others around whomever, since anyone can get scared. Super interesting.

Also, when I spoke of creeps, I meant actual assholes who did and said shitty stuff, not random socially awkward people. You know the drill.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 68 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

Yes.

I'm 6'5" and broad but the number of jump scares I cause is ludicrous. Most people (especially women) seem to have no situational awareness to the point where they miss gorillas approaching them.

If it's a stranger then I'll try to announce my approach from further away. If it's someone I know I'll see how high I can make them jump.

Edit: just saw you label some of these people creeps. They're not. This is a massive green light that they don't want to accidentally scare you.

[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago

yeah... i've noticed this too; Many people say I just appear out of thin air and startle them.... that isn't possible, I'm not stealthy... they just have zero situational awareness

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago

No, I meant actual creeps, like someone making a noise and then aggressively hitting on me or saying something disgusting. Those happen from time to time.

You're good.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Lol I'm a huge dude and I do the same. I usually go with a good foot scruff. Not too obnoxious, and most people will instantly identify it as someone is walking up.